Need advice!
Find a Conversation
| Sat, 01-21-2006 - 10:11pm |
I live with 2 other college students in a college town in the NE. Two of us were talking about the 3rd one today. We thought she wasn't home. So some of the things we talked about was how dirty she was. We had a chat with her a couple of weeks ago about cleaning up after ourselves. We also talked about her Boyfriend. We talked about how she deserves better. He is the root of some of her problems and I said she can definately do much better etc etc. usual female gossip. Then we went on to talk about some economic conditions somewhere, totally unrelated. Next thing we know, she walks in the kitchen, where we were talking. My roommate and I looked at each other and went oops silently. Now we are hoping she didn't hear us talk about her. However, we are not sure. We are trying to decide whats the best way to approach the situation. Most people would say let it go. However, we have nothing against her as a person. We both like her. She is really nice and really cool and its her place as well. We don't want her to feel uncomfortable living here. Its her home too.
We were thinking we apologize for talking behind her back. However, I am not sure how to do that tactfully, especially when we don't even know if she her us. The best case scenario would be that she didn't hear us. However, whats the best way to handle it?
Thanks,
Ashamed Roomie!!

ashamed roomie...
Pianoguy is gonna play devil's advocate with you.
Put yourself in "her shoes" and ask yourself HOW YOU'D FEEL? Would you have any trust or loyalty towards 2 people who were supposed to be your "friendly roommates?"
I KNOW I WOULDN'T FEEL COMFORTABLE IF THIS SITUATION HAPPENED TO ME!
What you (and your tattling roomie) might want to do is "apologize by treating the abused party to dinner at a nice restaurant?"
Sometimes discussing uncomfortable issues in a public place will keep the screaming (on all sides) down to a minimum?
Pianoguy