Need ex advice quick!!
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| Wed, 06-08-2005 - 3:12pm |
I dated my ex for a little over a year and he broke it off very suddenly. He didn't really specify why he left, he just left.
Since then I have moved out of town for 8 months or so and moved back. Our families work together and I can't help but be informed about him and what he's doing. This is a small town and it isn't hard to see him. I adore his family and I know my family loves him. Everytime my relatives see him out they talk for a good 15 minutes. Then they report to me that he asked about me during the conversation. Recently, I found out that he is about to get a job that all the men in my family have.
My mother and sister tell me to go for it and try to get him back. I want to so badly, but I don't want to look so desperate.
Isn't it a positive sign that he still talks to my whole family and asks about me? I need advice! Please help!
Darci

Hello, I don't want to rain on your parade but I broke up with my ex a couple of years ago and I am still very close to his family and I still talk to his mother on a regular basis, and I don't want him back I just really like his family especially his mother. I'm not saying that it isn't going to work out for you because every situation is diffrent.
I would strongly advise to find out why he left first. And then I would take it from there. Just be careful cause getting back with an ex could be like playing with fire, and if it doesn't work out again the second time around are you prepared to open up all those old wounds again. It's just something to ask yourself.
I wish you the best of luck and I hope it does work out for you.
-Michelle
On one hand, if this were me and I was interested in getting my ex back, I would probably think that this is a really good sign as well. However, it has been my experience that if a guy is really interested in you, he will pursue you. I know that I am also close with an ex's family, and I ask about him and how he is doing, but I have absolutely no interest in dating him again; so that doesn't necessairly mean anything.
In any event, if you want to know where he stands, I would open the door for communication. Write him an email, invite him to a group outing, etc. I wouldn't go and ask him outright, I would just open the lines of communication and see what he does... I think you'll get a pretty clear answer that way.
Just my two cents.