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| Sun, 07-03-2005 - 3:03am |
i think i already know the answer to this and what i should do but i would just like to hear what people besides my friends think cuz you know friends sometimes dont see it the way it really is they see it the way you want them too.
ive known this guy for a year now (this month) and when we first met we were "Dating" i guess you could call it, not exclusively tho...then later we became just friends, no kissing or anything like that. then he left for west pac and now hes back hes been back for about a month. well we have been hanging out ever since like 2 days after he came back. we see each other atleast every other day and we call each other every day, if not email (cell phones dont get very good reception on ships) well this time around he is way different. i know for a fact that i really like him that hes not just "convenient" (hes my best friends boyfriends best friend if that makes sense lol) i could see my self actually being in an exclusive relationship with him and i want to be. since hanging out he has gone out to dinner with me and my family and now he goes out of his way to talk to them,like for example one night we were going to the movies with our bestfriends and i had to go home and change well usually he would just stay in the car and wiat with our friends but this time he got out and came in my house started talking to my brother and dad. he pays everytime we go out...he bought me a rose...he went on leave (vacation) to colorado and i called him one day and he said he misses me...the thing is we havent really talked about this thing we have going on. i want to tell him that i really like him (its so obvious but then again he is a guy) that i want a real relationship with him but im scared to tell him i dont know why tho every instinct i have tells me that he likes me the same just by the way he treats me when we are together.i guess im just scared because if by chance im just reading too much in to this and im way off on my instincts then its going to feel akward whenever we all hang out. in order for it to not be im going to have to just act like it doesnt phase me a bit when hes around and that could be hard. i ended an almost 3 year relationship just about a year ago and this is the first guy that i have actually wanted to start a relationship with. so my question is do you guys think he is really in to me the way i am in to him and should i just tell him my exact feelings for him? i mean if i dont tell him then maybe hes just scared too and it could take forever for one of us to bring it up but if i tell him and find out hes not that in to me then atleast ill know and i wont be AS heart broken as if i waited and found out later when i would be even more in to him. im pretty sure i just answered my own question but you know sometimes you just got to hear it from other people!
thanks~

lovebites619...
Pianoguy hates to use the cliche: "There's a girl in every port"----but this might be applicable in your b/f's case?
It's only one man's opinion, but if the guy you've been seeing is TRULY INTO YOU...to the extent that YOU ARE INTO HIM....he'd certainly have offered a few more words of encouragement by now?
Are you willing to get up the nerve to ask him the fatal question: "where do you think our relationship is headed?" Or are you more comfortable keeping things the way they are?
"It's your call" (quoting the line from a song from country singer, Reba McEntire).
Pianoguy
thats what i think too! he is a guy but just like myself and all of us girls out there guys get hurt too and i know hes had his share of heartbreak. so im sure just like me hes scared of potentially getting hurt again. its so hard to bring it up because of the fact guys hate talking about it....but i guess if i want my answer, good or bad, i just have to suck it up and tell him everything i feel for him....thanks guys!
sara
londoness75...
Quick response to your question (from Pianoguy):
The more times a man invests his time, money and has sincere interest in a woman...and her response is rejection (or betrayal later on)...THE LESS LIKELY HE'LL COMMIT HIMSELF TO ANYBODY!
Granted...not every male who say's he's interested in having a permanent relationship with a woman he finds attractive (or desirable)is sincere. But a lot of us reach a point where we AREN'T going to waste our time pursuing ANY WOMAN...if we've been used (or abused) in the past.
You might be the most attractive lady on the planet, but the "limited run" isn't worth it!
Pianoguy