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| Tue, 05-09-2006 - 2:00pm |
Hi all,
I really need some help! There is this guy I like that i see nearly everyday. But we've never spoken and I don't even know his name. We get the same train to and from work as we both work in the same shopping centre. it started about two months ago when we sat opposite each other in the train, I kept catching him looking at me and then he quickly looked the other way, this kept going on for a couple of weeks. But my friend had seen him with a girl so I didn't really think much of it.
Then one day I was walking to the station after work and he was walking in front of me with a friend. He usually walked the other way and he seemed shocked to see me and got very nervous. Then the next day he walked the same way as me to work and then back again in the evening. Then one day I was walking in front of him to work and when I turned around he was really looking which way I was going, then that lunch time he and a friend walked past my shop and his friend was really staring at me. so by now I was thinking that he might be interested and that maybe he had broken up with the other girl.
He's also sat near me in the train again a couple of times and for the last two weeks, when he's been walking in front of me, he slows down so we end up walking next to each other the whole way to work and when we stop to cross the road he stands really close and keeps looking at me then looking the other way quickly. But he never says anything, just gets nervous. One day the trains were delayed so we were both standing there for ten minutes and he kept coming closer to where i was standing but then got all nervous and walked back abit. I wanted to say something but I'm quite shy. I didn't know what to say.
But then this week my friend saw him with the girl again. so i ignored him the next day and walked really fast to work but that evening he came and stood really close to me at the station again. We were shoulder to shoulder.
do you think he's interested?
any advice!
louisa912

Well, only way to know is by first talking to him. I understand being shy but it is nothing to say hello to break the ice or next time the train is delayed to “wow I wonder why the delay?” You don’t have to turn his way to say because it is a general statement that many times someone near will say something back or not. As far as the other girl you are not sure it is a girlfriend, best friend, family member so do not just assume and miss out on meeting him. So tonight after work if he is walking next to you or stands near you say hi and if he speaks back and says “how are you” then respond and the conversation is on. Or, if you both are really that shy saying hello for a couple days then talking of weather or work later may get it going. Good luck.
Dear louisa:
You are both seemingly so shy, I'm not sure what to think! I would be asking myself, "Do I want a guy who is so shy, I have to initiate conversation?" Think of what your future would be. Assuming he's not a stalker, the next time he's looking at you, touch your hair and smile. If he doesn't accept the flirt, move on! He's too shy!
I'd be interested to know what the women at the marsvenus board say--have you ever been to that message board? There's a ton of practical wisdom there! beyondmeasure