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|Fri, 04-10-2009 - 7:30am|
I am in my 50's, and since my divorce 9 years ago, I have had 2 serious relationships. One lasted 3 years and the other almost 4. The last one ended about a year and a half ago. I now am with a new man of 4 months. He is so wonderful. He is caring, loving generous, and I do love our time together, but the problem is that I don't feel the same passion I felt with my last boyfriend. We click on every level but I just don't care if we have sex or not. I do enjoy the affection of kissing and cuddling, but just don't get horny like I did before. He is handsome, but I am not as physically attracted to him as I would like to be. Can I have a successful future with him feeling this way? He and I have sex once a week and he doesn't seem to mind this. He, like me is often tired after a long week of work. At our age, how important is sex when you have everything else going for you?
I have also had another problem lately, in that I am having very lucid dreams, and my ex boyfriend is often in them. I have been over him for quite a while, and realized a long time ago that he wasn't worth the time of day. I would say that the only good part of our relationship was the passion. I am upset that I do dream about him. And if and when I have thought about him, it is with despiction. We did not end on a good note.
I don't want the turmoil that I am recently in to affect my new relationship. How can I help foster a better relationship with this new man that I care deeply for?