nervous about physical differences

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Registered: 03-08-2006
nervous about physical differences
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Fri, 05-05-2006 - 12:12pm
My new beau is 6'1" 215 lbs and I am barely 5'0" and 102lbs. He has hinted that he is well endowed and from what I can tell during heavy petting, he ain't lying. I am nervous because I have never been with someone quite his physical stature and weight and I like to be on the bottom. Sex for the first time or couple of times with someone hurts at first if I am nervous. I am a small girl and I am worried his penis might be too big. What can I do? Any gals care to share similar experiences. We haven't had sex yet.
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Registered: 03-09-2006
Fri, 05-05-2006 - 12:57pm

I think that your fear is the thing that will work most against you. You think it'll hurt, you know when you're nervous it hurts, therefore it will.

My best advice is before you actually have intercourse, get yours first either manually or orally. This will rev you up, loosening the muscles down there. Then, plenty of lub. Lots suggest astroglide, but I prefer KY. Then, like the saying goes, slow and steady wins the race. Tell him that he is quite the manly man (he'll get an ego boost out of it) and that you'd bennefit from taking it slow and gentle.

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Registered: 04-28-2006
Fri, 05-05-2006 - 2:00pm

Dear Miss

Mismatch genitalia is no laughing matter! I know of couples who have had to end otherwise very promising relationships because of "fit." My last bf was amply endowed--I don't like to be vulgar, but he was hung like a loaf of bread. It took a little time and extra effort, but we sealed the deal--and I'd been pinched and hurt in the past by much smaller men.

My advice right now is not to sleep with him unless you feel emotionally ready--stress is killer to sex. And not everyone likes a big penis, so don't feel like you need to pursue this relationship at all.

Perhaps the early indicators are the ones you want to pay attention to. How do you feel about him mentally and emotionally? beyondmeasure