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| Wed, 08-24-2005 - 11:19am |
i have known my guy for 9 yrs. he is a very young 50 yrs old & i am 34 yrs old. we have only become romantically involved (no sex) in the last 2 yrs, but not because he didn't try (he has been trying to be with me for the last 7 yrs) but because i was really hurt by a past relationship & he was in & out of a long term relationship with his now ex-wife. he is wonderful, he calls me everyday to give me a ride to work, he opens doors for me & mostly treats me like i really matter. he shows great interest in my life, my child, friends, my hobbies, my job, etc. he he says that he would do about anything for me or my child & i believe him. the thing that bothers me is that 2 yrs since we became romantic & he still hasn't tried anything sexual, we have talked about sex, but never tried anything more than hugging & kissing (not even touching). he has told me that he loves me & i want to initiate sex, but he is kind of oldfashioned so i think that he wants to be the one to move the relationship to that next level. i really feel that we are ready for the next stage in our relationship, but maybe he does not.
what can i do to move things along, but what if he doesn't see me in that light?
saturns1stmoon
what can i do to move things along, but what if he doesn't see me in that light?
saturns1stmoon

My mom is married to an older man 20 years her senior and she suffers the same problem. The older the man gets the less sex he wants to have. (still waiting on a man to prove me wrong) lol
TALK to him, tell him that you ready for that next step and see what he says. You shouldn't have to be the one to plan the romantic evening to get the mood right. He should be the one, but he'll never even know how you feel if you don't talk to him.
You've already talked about sex, but you never talked about WHEN/WHERE/WHAT/HOW your going to do it. If sex isn't his thing anymore, then you'll have to blame that on him being old-fashioned and perhaps his age. YOu also have to ask yourself, is he that good of man where him NOT satisfying you sexually is okay. You may surprise yourself with the answer and decide to find someone around your age to knock your socks off in the bedroom.