New relationship rules

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Registered: 02-03-2004
New relationship rules
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Wed, 12-07-2005 - 10:48am
I ran into a guy that I met about a year ago(we were in a friends wedding together)and we started talking and exchanged numbers. we have benn talking and hanging out for about a 2 weeks now. Everthing is really good and he says he really likes me and wants to see as much as possible. We usually talk everyday. but the majority of the time I call him after work to just say hey and then we may talk later that night if we dont hang out. so we hung out 2 nights ago and before he left he asked when he could see me again and I said well not tommorow because i had plans. so he says well you call me when you want to. I said that he should call me. because he will alway say that like oh ill leave it up to or ill put the ball in your court. SO I didnt call him last night cuz I think its weird he wont ever call me first and he never called last night. So im just wondering why he wont ever call first and if I should be "playing hard to get" and not be calling all the time. and if he really liked me he would have called me right? what does every one think i should do?
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Registered: 06-22-2005
Wed, 12-07-2005 - 3:41pm

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How is he not making an effort if he was the one that asked you when he could hang out with you again? You're the one that had plans so it is now up to you to call him and ask him out. A lot of men do not like talking on the phone as much as women do but they rather see you in person which is why, as you have said, wants to see you as much as possible. I honestly don't see why you have a problem with him not calling you last night especially since you told him you had plans. He probably didn't want to interrupt "your plans". If you truly think this is a problem and are ready to play games with him ("hard to get") than I don't see this as being a long lasting relationship.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 12-07-2005 - 4:22pm

Perhaps he's more of the passive type or someone who doesn't like to do any of the "work" in a relationship. You told him you would like him to call you instead of you calling him, and he's not doing so. You can either talk to him again and explain that you really prefer that the guy do the calling early on, you can accept that you'll have to do most of the calling if you stay with him, or you can move on and find someone who is comfortable with taking the lead in calling.

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