"no strings?"

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"no strings?"
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Sat, 05-27-2006 - 2:47am

Hi all ...

What does the phrase "no strings attached" mean to you when it comes to a love relationship? I'm in the very beginning of getting to know someone I like (we are just friends at this point, not "dating", but there is a definite more-than-friends vibe), and he used this phrase when we were talking (in general) about love relationships. He said he really wants a new relationship, but he also said something about "no expectations." Mind you, he is not talking about me in particular here, just in general ... but that "no strings" comment got me thinking. It makes me wonder if this is worth pursuing at all, because MY take on "no strings attached" is "I'm not looking for any kind of commitment."

It probably sounds like I'm jumping the gun here, but I know myself, and I have a tendency to "overlook" things like this in the very beginning and then wonder later on why I'm disappointed things aren't as I want them to be.

What do you think?

carriebgirl

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Tue, 05-30-2006 - 6:58pm
I think I could benefit from your post about how to have the talk spiceman. I will be having to do this soon enough myself I think in another couple of months so I'll read it and try to figure out how to word things, what I really want, and ask him what he would like etc etc. It's also good for us women to remember before we ask a man where he stands is to be clear on if he's the right one for us as well and if we are prepared to ask for a more serious commitment from a man because sometimes infatuation can blind us as well at the beginning. So we need to make sure that we give it some time before we have this talk with a man. Let me know how the talk with this guy goes for you carriebgirl and if it goes well I might be asking for some advice from you in the near future on how you approached it. Good luck! :-)

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