not sure what to do

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-18-2003
not sure what to do
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Sun, 08-07-2005 - 6:15pm
My boyfriend and i have tried having sex a few times. I'm a virgin and he isn't. The age difference between use is 4 years. I'm 21 year old and still a virgin. I held off for the right guy until i'm completely comfortable and I realized that I am comfortable with him. We talked about having sex but when we try it seems unnatural like it's forced and we never end up doing is because he stops because of how uncomfortable the situation is. He mentioned to me that he never slept with a virgin before and he feels a lot of pressure. I was just wondering if maybe he isn't the one for me.. I hate the idea because i'm head over heels over him. But is there any way to make the situation more comfortable for both of us? Also is there any ways to get rid of all the pressure that has been building up between us because we haven't had sex and have been dating for awhile?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-13-2004
Sun, 08-07-2005 - 8:29pm

I'm a little confused, because 'sex' is a very broad word. Are you unable to have intercourse - or are you uncomfortable with all the foreplay too?

What if the two of you simply indulge in some petting without planning to take it further? Does this work OK?

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