Not too sure anymore.....

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Registered: 02-28-2006
Not too sure anymore.....
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Fri, 03-03-2006 - 9:15pm
I've been with my boyfriend for almost 7 months now. When we first got together, he was real sweet and did anything for me. As the time has gone on, we've started fighting about stupid stuff. The other day I agreed to go fishing with him and he asked me if I'd put the worm on the hook and i said i would but i didn't know how. I asked him how i was supposed to do it and he got all mad and told me to just forget it. He was mad at me for the rest of the night and i told him that it was a dumb reason to be mad. He told me that he was mad because i said i'd do it and then i didn't. He said that he has no trust in me anymore. A few weeks ago I went to hang out with my friends and he got mad when i ignored his calls and text messages while he was on his break. He's always getting mad over little things that happen. I love him a whole bunch and he says that i never show it. I try so hard to make him happy but I feel like I can't succeed at it. Today he called me after he got out of school and he called from a different number. I asked him why and he told me that it's the phone that his other girlfriend gave to him. I asked him if he was kidding and he said no, so I believed him. I got mad and got off the phone. I couldn't believe it. He called me right before he got to work to say that he was just kidding about it. He got mad that I thought he was being serious about it and started asking why i don't trust him. I told him that i do trust him. but when he says that he's NOT kidding then i'm going to believe that he's really doing it. We had plans to go out tomorrow after i got done with some family stuff I have to do in the morning. Today on his break he told me that he doesn't know if he wants to because i don't trust him. I feel like I'm slowly loosing him. I love him sooo much and he can be sooo perfect but anymore, I'm not too sure if i want to continue this relationship but at the same time i want to be with him forever. What do you recommend?
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 1:08am

....."What do you recommend?".....

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 3:30am

Blond, I don't know how old you are....but based on what you write, I'm guessing that you're in your teens.

What you are experiencing is the beginning of a long line of relationships. You will likely have a number of relationships before you finally end up finding "the one", and many of these relationships will seem great at first and then run it's course. This is just the first of many that you will go through.

But the positive side of all this dating and breaking up is that you will learn so much about yourself ... and about what you want in a man.

This relationship has run it's course. You have out-grown him. Move on to greener pastures.

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Registered: 10-20-2005
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 6:30am

I think this poster said it best:

What do you recommend?"..... I don't know what anyone else's posts will say, but I think they're going to go something along the lines of this: DTMFA (dump the m-f'er already)

All this carrying on and sulking over baiting a hook??? Youve got to be kidding me???

This guy is playing head games with you and trying to control this relationship. In time these little things, like baiting a hook, will turn into bigger and then bigger things. GET OUT NOW!!

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 8:42am

I second what the other posters have already said: he is manipulating you, and trying to keep you off balance and under his control. If you had refused to hook the worm, he would have taunted you for being girly; if you had done it, he would have told you it was done wrong. It was win for him, lose for you, no matter what you did. The whole relationship is going to continue this way, Blond. I know you're afraid of losing him, but let's face it, you don't actually have him as it is. He just has you.

Do the smart thing and jettison him, and DON'T TAKE HIM BACK when he comes around crying about how you can't take a joke. This guy is an abuser-in-training.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sat, 03-04-2006 - 10:24am

I wasn't kidding when I said he was an abuser-in-training. Please post about this on the Domestic Abuse board, to learn A LOT about what your boyfriend is doing, and why he's treating you this way.

http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-rldomesting

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 11:40am
I second the go over to DA Board. While reading this post that was the first thing that came to mind. He is controlling the situation by making you adjust to his moods and what he feels like. He is not communicating but demanding a lot. Please take head to the comments posted and or read some of the the posts on DA and check out the signs and see if the behavoir applies.
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