Opinions PLEASE!!! Just Friends?

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Registered: 07-21-2004
Opinions PLEASE!!! Just Friends?
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 1:47am

Can a male and female really be "JUST FRIENDS"?
When they hang out together more often than not. (And yes - just the two of them. Maybe with others too but more often just the two of them.) Watch movies together, on the same couch! haha;) Go out to eat together, study together, etc.

I do think that people of the opposite sex can be just friends. But I'm having a hard time believing that they're Just friends when they hang out together that much.

I would really like to hear advise and just opinions from people.

Thanks!:)

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 4:21am

I can speak only for myself.....

I've NEVER had a just friends relationship with the opposite sex. There has always been more to it.

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Registered: 08-02-2005
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 7:35am

Well, I happen to have a male as my best friend of over 30 years, so yes they can be just friends, just like your girl friends, we share all our secrets and desires but, we also understand where we stand, sure I hug him and say I love you but, on that friendship level.

He is the other half of me and I respect him, and he has a wife and children as well, and I would never ever do anything to change that part of his life. I help him grow and understand the womens side of things and he for me the mens. It has worked out well for both of us he gets what he needs from me and I from him and it has nothing to do with sex at all, but we also talk about that too.

I know it's sometimes hard for other people to understand but, if you understand that it is a true friendship then that is all it will be, the fact that I do love him is on a different level than with a boyfriend, or even with my husband when I was married. I feel bad for people when they read more into it than there is, but if you have ever had that bond with someone then you can appreciate where I am coming from. Lovers come and go true loyal friendship is everlasting, and a special gift only few will ever find.

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 10:28am
Yes, you can be just friends. I have a male best friend and him and I go to lunch together daily and work together. Then once we are home can sit up all night and talk. Heck, I have gotten off the phone with my bf and went to bed and my best friend has called and stayed up to 4 am talking to him. When he travels I keep his car at my home and take him to the airport. He tells me about the women he dates and ask for advice from time to time and so do I. My bf has known about him from day one and has no problem because I am in no way attracted to him and he me. We just click as friends but know we can't date because it would be disasterous because of who and how we are. But, as friends we have a blast.
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 10:55am

Sure. I have several close guy friends I do things with regularly. But not all the time, that's for sure.

Do either of these people have SOs? If not, they may just be hanging out together that much because they don't have other obligations, and they enjoy each other's company. It doesn't *necessarily* mean something's going on between them.

Sheri