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|Wed, 04-29-2009 - 7:37pm|
okay, here goes, all advice except judgemental is appreciated.
we've been together for 14 months. in that time, at 6 months, we got pregnant and terminated. (this was an awful decision please don't judge I've suffered enought) the aftermath was awful and it made me realize how much I wanted a baby. I'm 41 so this was no small thing to realize. never married, never pregnant before.
now, 6 months later, when asked do you want to have a baby with me, he said " I'm not gung ho and I don't think I'm really ready but I want you to have what you want and I love you and I want you to be with you and happy so I will help you have a baby."
this was bittersweet. sweet of him to care so much about me but made me cringe in other ways.
the relationship on its own is not perfect, garden variety type issues, nothing major.
I love the guy, but it feels like a togetherness/bestfriendness not a real belonging.