Past Affairs and Future Relationships
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|Sat, 08-15-2009 - 12:37pm|
What is the general wisdom was about the trustworthiness of guys who cheat on their wives (or significant others) when the relationship starts to fail? Should this be a big warning that these guys are not going to be reliable in the future, or should we cut them some slack because of the circumstances?
I've heard "once a cheater, always a cheater" but I've also heard that having affairs is a symptom of the problem in a relationship, not a character flaw. A few people I respect met while married to other people and are still together and loyal to each other. Even so, I take a negative view of men who have affairs while married.
(I don't approve of women doing it either, but since I don't date women, it doesn't concern me in the same way.)
My question is inspired by this guy who I went on a first date with last night. There may not be a second date, and that would be fine. But it got me wondering, in general terms, should I avoid guys who admit to having cheated on their wives during their marriages? Is this a warning sign or just an accident of fate?