Please help !

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Registered: 07-23-2004
Please help !
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Mon, 07-11-2005 - 3:09am

Hi All,

Here¡¦s my problem. My fiancee of 9 months travels a lot and is usually in the habit of bringing home presents for all. Well on his last trip back home, he got all the ladies that were on his list ¡V cousins, mother, mother-in-law the same present ME included . We all got a bottle of fragrance. And I must admint that I was disappointed ƒ¼. This given the fact that I¡¦m one of those girls who can¡¦t have enuff fragrances and my man knows this!! After all, am I not supposed to be the ¡¥special¡¦ one ?? Next he went away on another project and this time around, he comes home with an electronic gadget for his kid brother while I end up with a soft toy. (yes it¡¦s mushy and all that ) but ! What is exactly happening here?? Is my guy trying to convey a message that am unable to grasp ?? Is it just that his family is always goin to be more important than I am?? Can someone please help me decipher this guy¡¦s mind??

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 9:54am

angelfire 23....

PG thinks you're more obsessed by the GIFT....than the fact that the man brought a little something for everybody!

Would you have felt better if you had received NOTHING AT ALL?

If you're going to start drawing comparisons before your marriage....you better END EVERYTHING NOW! Because the man you think you're in love with will constantly be "under surveillance!"

And this is a LOUSY WAY to begin a life with ANYBODY!

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-27-2005
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 11:21am
I think that you should calm down and not take it so personally. I mean I am sure there are other ways in which he makes you feel special than just with a gift. Because if that is the only thing he can do to make you feel special than there is a problem. And not with him.
I think you should relax about it and not read so much into it.
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Registered: 02-25-2005
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 12:36pm
I have a question. If he is your fiance who is the mother-in-law who got the fragrance? Aside from that, he may just not be the gift shopping kind. Everyone gets the same gift because of the convenience to him. If it bothers you, tell him so. Don't make a big deal of it, but mention you would like something that stands out from the others. I have discovered that men are not mind readers and they want us women to tell them what we want from them. It makes it so much simplier for everyone involved. Good luck to you.
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Registered: 06-21-2005
Tue, 07-12-2005 - 1:16pm

I agree!