Please help me decifer this

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2009
Please help me decifer this
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Sat, 08-15-2009 - 4:19pm
Me and a very close thing have something going. I'm not sure exactly what yet but we have been good friends for years and I think we are both starting to realize there is more to it. He set up a secret live account with just me on it. We email back and forth a bit but nothing too serious. Lately the comments have been more on the sexual side but nothing that really says what either of us are wanting. He posted some pics on his profile last night, only I can see them. Two of the pics are a headshot and he put roses around the border. Would a guy do this without meaning something, or is it his way of sending me flowers? I don't want to think too much into it, but I can't help thinking it means something.
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Registered: 07-17-2009
Sat, 08-15-2009 - 6:13pm

If he wanted to send you flowers, he could pick up the phone and pull out his wallet/credit card.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Tue, 08-18-2009 - 9:23am

There's nothing to "decifier" other than YOU need to stop playing along with this guy. Not sure why he's doing things behind closed doors, but it sounds like he's with someone.

It's NOT going anywhere, there's nothing in person, and it's all behind "closed doors". Please hold a higher regard for yourself and not allow silly stuff like this to mess with your head. Do things in person and direct, and expect and demand better for yourself.

Someone told me a really great line that makes a lot of sense, "Know that you are a prize to be won and not a piece to be playing with". Remember that it's real when it's in person, and it's not when it's behind doors.

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Registered: 08-30-2008
Wed, 08-19-2009 - 4:17pm
It is usually best to not have to decipher but to communicate directly and honestly about what each of you wants from the other.
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Registered: 03-30-2009
Thu, 08-20-2009 - 9:51pm

You think he wants to send you flowers?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2009
Sun, 08-23-2009 - 6:46pm

A secret account with only you on it? Pics that only you can see? You only email back and forth?

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Registered: 07-17-2009
Mon, 08-24-2009 - 12:46pm
LOL...oh my gosh...I didn't even think about the borders of flowers cutting out a cropped out girlfriend. Good thinking! Yeah, this guy sounds shaaaaady to me. Start giving him the time of day when he can have the decency to meet with you in person, in public, and communicate with you on a profile that can been seen by everyone.