Please some advice??

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-23-2005
Please some advice??
Wed, 10-21-2009 - 11:49pm

My ex-boyfriend of 2 years recently broke up with me in august. After a month of no contact, he texted me and said he thought he made a huge mistake..and was thinking about getting back together with first i was overjoyed...but the issue there was that we both go to different schools (We were in a long distance relationship for over a year out of the two). Well I caved in and said ya i wanted to get back together with him...and we continued to talk for about a month or so. He said he wanted to come down and visit..and I said ok...but he didn't know for sure because of class conflicts and his work schedule.. two days before he was supposed to come..he got offered another job as a genereal manager for a basketball team..he said he wasn't sure if he was going to take it..and he still didn't know if he was going to come down. two days passed and I didn;t hear from him at all. The day he was supposed to drive down..i got a random text...I replied asking if he was coming down or not. He said: "I took the no I'm not coming..sorry."

I got really upset...i felt like i was being strung after a lot of thinking..i sent him a message telling him that we needed to stop talking if this wasn't going to go anywhere..and that as much as i loved was way too hard..I told him that he had my number and if he wanted to get back together...he could contact me..and if i was still interested than we could talk.

Well 3 weeks passed (with no contact)

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-29-2006
Fri, 10-23-2009 - 11:33am

I can't say what his motivation is for texting you out of the blue, but if texting with him and being strung along hurts you, then why continue?

For more support and suggestions for how to deal with this, you might try our Breaking Up Is Hard to Do board.

(((HUGS))) and let us know how it goes!