police say he is a STALKER!!!

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Registered: 01-20-2004
police say he is a STALKER!!!
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 8:40am

Well everyone here is the exciting conclusion to the "what to do" post from a few days ago. This guy has since been to my work every day, and I spent the night at my old work place last sun night to avoid being at home and having to face him. even spent all day sunday at my parents' house 45 minutes away to avoid him that day.

I know all of the city, county, and state officers in the area most on a first name basis from my job at the restaurant. I have talked to many of them and they are now making sure to patrol extra around my house. Espicially when I am at work and my kids are at home with the sitter. My friend Terry came home from his mini-vacation and I e-mailed him solely to tell him to get his friend off my back. so this guy hasn't been to my house since Terry came back from vacation. HOWEVER he STILL comes to my work daily. And magically appears at every store and gas station that I go to.Mutual friends beside Terry have even told this guy that I am not interested,but he STILL comes to my work every day and they will do nothing because he buys things there! I have had my friends watching my house for his truck as well to make sure he is not coming around when I am gone.

I talked to the city officer last night and was not at the time convinced this guy is technically a stalker, he handed me a pamphlet describing stalkers and who they are(characteristics) and it fits this guy to a "T". The behavior, the background, everything! I talked to the county sargent last night as well and he is trying to encourage me to get a restraining order against this guy. I told him I have to come up with the cash(easier said than done) they are $20 after I pay the bill for the week, this weeks rent $150, and the babysitter, I only have about $30 left and that goes for gasoline to get me to work! He said he would try to work something out for me, in the meantime they are all keeping a close eye on things for me, and watching out for my safety.

UGH!!! just when I thought things were calming down so I can get my stress level down low so I can quit having seizures again and start my paramedic training!

Now I am POSITIVE my life is a soap-opera! from things as petty as my son's problems at school, to my sons stillbirth, 4 miscarriages, my separation from Jimmy, other failed relationships,my manic-depressant dad, his infedility to my mom, and now what police are calling a stalker! Now all I have to do is come back from the dead and my life will be an official soap opera! Let's not try that one though! If it wasn't for the fact my son is buried here in Michigan and the fact I could NEVER take the kids from their dad I would just move to Florida and start all over!

Betty