pregnant from a friend

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Registered: 08-02-2004
pregnant from a friend
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Thu, 12-15-2005 - 3:17pm
about 6 months ago things happend between myself and a friend ..i ended up pregnant from it he once mentioned seeing if we could be more then friends but with finding out about the baby and being uncertin i wasnt very responsive ,he started talking about his best friend which is a female which made me turn in the oposite direction .
theyve been best friends for about 8 years now and hes now in the last little bit been talking of wanting to get with her as more then a friend ,sad but i have finally come to terms with how i feel and the pregnancy and feel so overwhelmed because i feel i wasted to much time and now have no chance being more then just his friend if i ever in fact really ever had a chance with him in this way .
im very confused and dont know what to do about it all he keeps telling me he needs to see whats going on with his friend ,hes told me that hes mentioned dating to her but that she says she doesnt want to ruin their friendship .
he hasnt told her about the baby and says hes worried about how she will take it because he figures she would wonder why he didnt wait for her.
i dont know if i should just walk away and just have him see the baby on the weekends etc or if i should say something to him about how i feel .

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Registered: 10-13-2004
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 3:49pm

A baby deserves a mother and father. Sure, it doesn't always work out that way, but you owe it to your child to at least give it a shot. Don't be afraid to be very open with it's father and figure out the best possible outcome for the relationship.

Be honest and know that if it doesn't work out, you gave it your best shot. Don't spend your life wondering.

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Registered: 12-27-2004
Sun, 12-18-2005 - 8:11am
It's very interesting that the father of your baby is talking to you about his plans to become involved with another woman. Even if he thinks you're not interested in him, that is a bit insensitive. If someone has impregnated you, you should feel entitled to speak clearly and directly to that person about your needs and the baby's. Don't be so noble; you didn't conceive this child by yourself.
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Sun, 01-01-2006 - 3:20am
I hope everything will work for u.
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Sun, 01-01-2006 - 10:16am
the pregnancy isnt going that great actually .. im having complications in my pregnancy and have already been hospitalized once because of it .
and i guess as far as he is concerned he isnt worth it hes been telling me things about us and having feelings etc just games to him i guess .
shes been playing games with him to so i guess there perfect for each other
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Registered: 10-29-2003
Mon, 01-02-2006 - 1:47pm

Sorry to hear about your pregnancy, not going good.

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Mon, 01-02-2006 - 4:11pm
shes due in the middle of march ,he asks about us when things arent goin well but otherwise its not usually something he says to me.
and your right i probably am better off with out him in my life .
ive come to the conclusion that hes playing games n have told him so he hasnt said anything to it so i think everything ive said has hit home for him .
thank you for the prayer an the thought
you take care as well
carla
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Registered: 10-29-2003
Mon, 01-02-2006 - 11:56pm

Carla,


Have u picked out,,a name for your baby girl, yet ?

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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 9:41am
hi veronica
yes ive already picked out a name .. im naming her kira fay the dad had wanted me to use alexandria just not sure how that would really sound .
yes im in my 20's im 28 .. my gf is pretty excited that im haivin this baby she says she cant wait to spoil her .
yeah preg scares arent fun, thats what i thought she was at first but turned out she wasnt just a scare lol
have a good day
carla
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Registered: 10-29-2003
Tue, 01-03-2006 - 7:53pm

Hey, Carla,


That a pretty name for her.

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Tue, 01-03-2006 - 8:32pm
yeah i have suport from friends and family
although there not really impressed with the dad
thanks
i will you too

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