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prenuptual agreements
| Thu, 01-19-2006 - 9:04am |
Hi, just wondering if anyone has any personal stories of prenuptual agreements???? I am a 30 year old woman who just recently broke off an engagement because I would not sign the one my ex-fiance gave me. I asked him to change on one issue in the agreement and he would not. It was either sign as is or no wedding...and look where I am now. My lawyer who I gave the agreement to was like uh you are crazy to sign as is. I know these agreements are becoming more and more popular among couples. I just hope I made the right decision. Believe me I am not out for money, I just want to be treated like a fair and equal partner, like marriage should be. Any advice or info would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you,
Mich
Thank you,
Mich

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Angelica, before I had children, I had the same attitude as you.
However, my life has changed. If (heaven forbid) my husband died, I would be left in the position of having two children (one of which is autistic) and a house that I owned outright plus some money to live on.
If I were then to remarry, I would feel the need to protect my assets on behalf of my children. If we were to split and he claimed more than his share, it could leave me and my kids without a home.
Also, if I should die, I would want to ensure that my children get a large porportion of my assets. If I were to leave it all to the new husband, how do I know that he will take care of my children? Perhaps they would get nothing if he then died? And who will make sure that my disabled son has the money to live comfortably if I'm not around?
In short, a pre-nup for this hypothetical re-marriage would be to protect my children - not myself.
Out of curiousity, if you signed, and he died, where WOULD his stuff go?
Yeah, you did the right thing. I can understand maybe the company not going to you, only because he'd want it to go to his biz partner or someone he knew could take it on and keep it up, but to say you get nothing, that's just selfish.
A pre-nup is to protect your assests, not keep them from the person you love. Ugh.
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