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Questioning Relationship
| Tue, 11-08-2005 - 5:21pm |
I've been dating this guy for a couple of months, and I am beginning to question whether he is attracted to me or not, or if he truly likes me. The main problem is his obsession with his former crush. I became friends with this girl that he is good friends with, and I had my suspicions about their relationship. I asked him about it and he said that there was nothing between them, but soon I found out that he had an unrealized crush on her for an whole year (unfortunately she told him she only sees him as a friend). Still friends with her, he constantly brings her name into our conversations and even once suggested I grow my hair out natural (she has a short natural haircut while I sport a perm)! His conversations with her are high in number and often great. They have alot in common and he even sugested she come and visit him during the summer (He lives in D.C. her in Virginia). He hasn't even kissed me yet, minus kisses on the cheek and head. He never tells me I'm pretty or compliments me! We even slept in the same bed twice and all it seems he's interested in doing is cuddling and holding hands!!! He seems to care for me, and buys me little cute unexpected presents but I don't think he really sees me as a girlfriend. I'm scared he still likes the other girl, and I just seemed like an okay girlfriend material at the time. Help!

fuuma17...
Is your world going to come to a screeching halt if this man should disappear from your life? .
You're not getting the compliments or the commitment you want because THIS MAN AIN'T OVER THE EX-G/F!
That leaves you with the choice of taking him as he IS....or finding a man who will love, praise and pamper you like crazy?
Ask yourself which of the two options above is MORE IMPORTANT TO YOU?
Pianoguy
Hello Sweetness! Please listen to PianoGuy. IMO your guy is DEFINITELY not over his "CRUSH". From reading your post, you are a safe female friend (i.e., that's why he can sleep in the same bed with you and do no extras). Trust me, I've BTDT. It's no reflection on you, so please try not to take it to heart (it's hard, I know). He will need to get this crush out of his system before he can give you anything. I do believe he does care for you thou, but only as a friend. If it's any consolation, be glad he has enuf respect for you not to use you. You two could possibly become platonic friends - but the answers lie within you and if you can deal with it. Good luck to you.
P.S. - PG, thanks for the male perspective. Take care and God Bless!