Quick Question??!?!?

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Registered: 08-28-2005
Quick Question??!?!?
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Wed, 10-19-2005 - 12:28pm
Sent the guy I am dating(since June) a letter letting him know how I felt. It has been 3-4 weeks and he has never mentioned the letter. His birthday is in about 3 weeks and I plan on taking him to dinner. Should I bring up the letter now or wait till about a week after his birthday. I guess it is good that he didn't stop seeing me after the letter, but I want to know how he feels. It is a sad time around his birthday for personal reasons. I do not want to bug him too much around that time. So, I either do it know or after his bday. Is there a way to be really really subtle to gage how he feels about me without being direct. Maybe, I can be more direct later on?
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 10-19-2005 - 6:15pm
The fact that he didn't already comment on your letter is not good. I would imagine that he does not feel the same way as you.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 10-19-2005 - 6:49pm

I disagree. The same thing happened to me. I included a note inside my BF's Valentine's Day card telling him how I felt about him and our relationship. At that time we had been dating for 4 months. Not only did he not mention the note, he never even acknowledged getting the card! I figured it was probably too early in our relationship so I decided to back off and see what happened. I also had to remind myself that I didn't tell him all those things just to hear something back. I told him simply because I wanted him to know. We've been dating for 1 year now and have been living together for the past 2 months. I finally asked him (teased him) about not acknowledging my card. He says he was happy to get it and felt the same way but was having a hard time sharing his feelings.

If you shared your feelings with your BF to get him to say the same things back to you, then you may be waiting a while. If you shared your feelings with him simply because you wanted him to know, be happy with that. I wouldn't rush things or try to force him into sharing his feelings. That may send him running. Why not just enjoy him and be happy? I also wouldn't hold back sharing your feelings with him in the future just because he hasn't reciprocated. If you feel it and want to tell him, then do so.