A rant of some sorts

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Registered: 08-04-2009
A rant of some sorts
Tue, 08-04-2009 - 11:34pm

We've been friends for over a year. We met online and dated for about a month...then things got weird when I started pushing things a little too fast and we stopped talking for a while.
Well now we've been talking almost everyday for the past few months, we hang out, we have fun, he makes me laugh.... I went into this friendship with no expectations, no pressure.

I'm in love with him. I have been since the first time we met. And I know that if I even mention anything about it he'll probably stop talking to me and I don't want to lose him even if he's just a friend.

Well, he's getting to move out of state. I'm going to miss him like crazy when he leaves. When I'm with him all I want to do is kiss him, tell him how I fell, but I'm sure it'll just scare him off. He's been hurt badly from a previous relationship plus the last time we dated I kept pressuring him to define what we were(which is something I don't want to do this time..).

I'm just so in love with him and needed to get my thoughts out of my head.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Wed, 08-05-2009 - 9:37am

This is probably not going to work out.

It started off wrong, and now it's ending not quite how you would like it to. Once he leaves, you will need to find some sort of other outlet to keep yourself occupied.

Keeping busy is the best way to get over someone, and also having no contact with them helps as well. I've been in a similiar situation many years ago, and wanted to be with the guy so bad, I had deep feelings for him and he didn't. He moved to CA for a job, and that was the last I saw him. I heard from him a few years later, and that was about it.

You probably need to loose him as a friend in order for yourself to get over him. It's sucks, but think about it...how are you gonna move on. All you can do is wish him the best and move on with your life.

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Registered: 07-17-2009
Thu, 08-06-2009 - 12:28pm
It will be interesting to see how much he misses you once he's gone. I sort of think you should avoid making any grand gestures and see how this all plays out. If he enjoys being with you so much and can't live without you, he WILL stay in touch and maybe will ask that you visit him. If not, at least you'll know you can move on. It will be hard as h*ll but if he doesn't try and stay in touch, it will need to happen.