Read the name and you'll catch my drift

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Registered: 10-15-2005
Read the name and you'll catch my drift
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Sat, 10-15-2005 - 4:09pm
I'm very much in love with someone I know I can't have...even though I'm 99.9% sure he's The One (and I'm not reffering to The Matrix here) I know that there is little chance I will ever have him.
It's very painful. I'm with him everyday and yet it's like a huge black cloud hanging over me...what's the point in hoping for Mr Right when he's with a partner and a kid's bouncing up and down his knee...? Despair. Despair. Despair.
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Sun, 10-16-2005 - 5:14am

Sounds like a very unfortunate situation - your probably not going to want to hear this - but "there is little chance I'll ever have him" really needs to leave your head. IMO you need to bring yourself to the realization that you will NOT have him - he has a family! Any hopes you keep of getting together with him will just make you miserable.

If it is any consolation - I think there are many of us that let "Mr. Right" get away - only to find we were wrong - when our true "Mr. Right" came along.

Makes me think of that Garth Brooks song "unanswered prayers" -
BT's

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Registered: 09-26-2005
Sun, 10-16-2005 - 9:25am

I agree with BT's

Mr. Right dosen't have a wife and a family. Those are integral parts of him and you should'nt see him as separate from those.

Your real Mr. Right will show up someday, probably when you're feeling confidently independent!

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Sun, 10-16-2005 - 12:37pm

my heart bleeds...

You brought up a question that Pianoguy has been asking himself (and several others) for many years:

"WHY DOES A WOMAN ASSUME THERE IS ONLY ONE 'MR. RIGHT' IN HER LIFE...ESPECIALLY WHEN HER PARTICULAR 'MR. RIGHT' IS ALREADY TAKEN?"

I'd love an honest answer to this...simply because many ladies I've encountered have A ONE MAN MINDSET!

Pianoguy

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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 2:00pm

Pianoguy

If I'm very very truthful I think it's what I call the Richard-Gere-In-Uniform syndrome. It's a load of Hollywood claptrap stuffed down women's throats until their regurgitating it out for the world to see (or, rather, hear).

I still think he's the only one I'll be in love with...I'm sure I'll love again but not in the way I love this paticular person. God, it sounds so silly even saying it like that...maybe it's a fear of being alone my entire life. Maybe I'm just letting my emotions run away with me. I should be using my head but surely that's not what you should do in this situation...should you? I mean, if I think it's right in heart...and there you go again. Damn Hollywood.

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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 2:10pm

I think that's a bit ridiculous. Surely there is no Mr Right if I don't dictate there is? Maybe Pianoguy is right and that women are a bit concieted about the whole concpet of Mr Right (ie the one and only). Then again Pianoguy is a guy sitting there replying back to messages that are both emotion-filled and dying desperate.

What I feel for whom I believe is my Mr Right is purely emotional. I make no excuses for it. I haven't acted upon it although it is VERY tempting sometimes...and I probably never will. Our union is purely in my minds eye and the LOVE I feel for him is just that: love. An emotion. And I think, as a self-respecting human being, I have enough control to curb my lowly animal urges and not succumb to sech things as the incorpreal. It still remains, however...it still remains.

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Registered: 04-18-2004
Wed, 10-26-2005 - 2:44am
This person is not the only guy you're ever going to love. Get over him and find someone without a family. If you stay close to him you'll only torture yourself and put temptation in his way and possibly break up his family. Move on.