Real love.. or too good to be true?

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Registered: 09-14-2008
Real love.. or too good to be true?
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Sat, 08-08-2009 - 10:39pm

Could this be real?... I promise this is worth reading as im sure it's happened to many other women and i would really like to get other's viewpoints...


I met this guy through my cousin who is friends with him about two or so weeks ago.

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Registered: 12-22-2007
Sat, 08-08-2009 - 11:53pm

I have two words for you. SLOW DOWN.

This isn't love, it's infatuation. Those hormones are jumping around and making you feel fabulous, but it's not love. At least, not yet.

Is it too good to be true? Hon, it's only been two weeks. You barely know each other.

This early into a relationship, it always looks wonderful. Just sit back and enjoy the ride. Whether or not the relationship has potential to last will reveal itself in good time.

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Registered: 07-17-2009
Sun, 08-09-2009 - 2:14am

Slow down.

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Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 08-10-2009 - 9:52am

Sounds more like way too much BS going on...not real love.


This guy has got way too much BS going on with him, even the weed is a problem! I see red flags big time with this guy, your just too much in that "fog" to realize it. Remember something, when it's actually "real..and true love", the guy will be able to take care of himself, have a career, and is financially stable. At 21...there's nooooo way. Maybe by your late 20's. You need to late the man chase you, and show you that he truly wants to be with you...and not the other way around. If you chase him, and you get your hopes up like you are now...you are setting yourself up for failure.


My advice, I would back off this guy. He's not someone you said you would normally date, and you are clearly questioning what's going on. In the future, hold off on a guy until he proves to you that he meets your standards.

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Registered: 07-17-2009
Mon, 08-10-2009 - 12:50pm
It could be real love but it is way too early to tell. Just have fun in this heavy infatuation time and see where it goes. It's too early to freak out yet. I know what it's like to worry if something is too good to be true. So just step out of the clouds sometimes and remember that you have a life outside of him. Try and schedule some time with your bestfriends without him there. But I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to have fun with him for now. See where you guys are in three months. You'll have more to go on.
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Registered: 08-30-2008
Mon, 08-10-2009 - 8:53pm

The only thing I can say is .. time will tell.

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Registered: 08-11-2009
Tue, 08-11-2009 - 12:55am

Agree with everyone else, slow it down!!


This is what will happen if you dont slow it down (based on personal experience and from stories Ive read and heard everywhere), one day out of nowhere, ONE of you (most likely him) will realize that you two are moving way too fast, he will become distant and less available, the "beautiful" texts you expect to get no longer comes around and you'll be left wondering what went wrong, and then everything slowly fades away.

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Registered: 03-19-2006
Tue, 08-11-2009 - 4:33pm

Missd2008,


Welcome. I agree with the posters that you should definitely slow down. This could be one of those things where all of sudden one of you will wake up and realize how fast this is going and pull away, leaving the other one to wonder what happened.


I think that you should take a step back. Just enjoy each other's company and the getting to know you.


Good Luck!

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Registered: 09-14-2008
Tue, 08-11-2009 - 8:02pm

Two things that i'm

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Registered: 09-14-2008
Tue, 08-11-2009 - 8:13pm

It's funny the scenario you gave

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Registered: 09-14-2008
Tue, 08-11-2009 - 9:20pm

An update and a response to everyone's advice...


First of all, i appreciate

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