Relationship is great, but....

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Relationship is great, but....
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Fri, 09-16-2005 - 4:29pm

What do you do when you are dating someone for over a year but you can’t seem to get over your ex. I mean the new guy is great in all aspects, but he is against sex before marriage. Now, I have no problem with waiting but you know sometimes a girl has urges. Then there is the ex, with him sex was awesome, great, the whole nine yards.


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Registered: 06-30-2003
Fri, 09-16-2005 - 4:44pm
I feel like that all the time. Now I am sure some people will post that you need to focus on what you have because the past is the past and blah blah blah. However, people can not control who their heart longs for. It's like when you walk into car dealership. There are all beautiful cars there but theres only one you really want. It doesnt matter that the other has more options or a better price b/c your heart has made up its mine and it's the same here. It's hard when yo ulove someone but you carry on not because you want to but because youhave to. Theres a big difference. I would say kill time with the new guy and hopefully the one you really want willc ome around soon.
As far as the ex thing.....I don't know what I would do. Abstinence at this age, well i'm 26 and there aint no way. You have to see what works for you. I don't think that is why youare thinking of your ex though.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 2:56am
Though I see the car I want, I can't afford it or can't have it so I just settle on the car available. aka the current guy because he is afforable, and I can see long term. Though the one I want (the ex) I do not know all the aspects because is has been so rocky with that brand before. What do you think then?



































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Registered: 09-16-2005
Sat, 09-17-2005 - 4:01am
Give your new more time and if you feel the same I think it is time to look around for somebody else.It is a little unfair for him,but you can't be with somebody and think for the ex,that is because you don;t receive enough from the new.You will feel when it is time to break up or it is time to get over the ex,don't worry.