saying no to another date

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Registered: 05-11-2005
saying no to another date
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Tue, 10-11-2005 - 4:24pm
Hi, I've been out a few times with a guy and I don't want to go out with him anymore. I've always had a tough time breaking things off, any advice? He's a nice enough guy, I just don't want to date him. He seems to be really into me, and I have a feeling he's going to try and convince me to give him another chance.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 9:13am
Just tell him as you posted here and stick to your guns.



































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Registered: 01-06-2004
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 9:32am

Just stand firm and give him no where to go. Try saying something like, "I'm sorry, you're a nice guy but I just don't see things working out with us." If he persists, ignore his calls.

If you can't get him off the phone in the first place try, "Look, I'm sorry, and I really don't mean to be a bitch, but I'm just not interested in pursuing this any further. There just anything more to discuss. Good luck and it was nice meeting you. Bye."

Be firm and hang up after "bye".

I know it might seem harsh, but some guys just don't know how to take "No" for an answer and if you're dealing with a guy like that you have to be firm or they will try to use guilt to sucker you into giving them another chance and wasting more of your time.

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Registered: 09-16-2003
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 2:26pm
Just tell him you want to be friends. That is what I told a guy I went on a date with but thought was a really cool guy. The attraction/chemistry just wasnt there. Yeah, he kept on trying for a while but gave up and we're really great friends now!
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Registered: 05-11-2005
Sun, 10-16-2005 - 6:26pm
Yeah, I did it, it was tough. He tried to talk me out of it but I held firm. Thanks for the feedback.