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In a serious jam......
| Thu, 04-06-2006 - 2:03am |
Ok, here's my problem... In 1999, I met this wonderful guy, we dated for 2 and a half years... and then I met his friend... well I stopped dating this one guy to date his friend... everything was going great.. until we got married and I got pregnant... when I was 5 months pregnant with my son... my husband shoved me onto the bed and then acted like nothing was wrong. Then we move into another place and we start fighting ALL the time.. then I have my daughter when my son was only 17 months old. Things between my husband and I are really stressful, and I'm losing patience with the marriage. I've been talking to my ex and we both regret ending the relationship and want to get back together.. I've been trying to make the marriage work though, but my husband doesn't seem to want things to work out with the way he is acting. He is going behind my back talking about me and putting me down to his step-mother and father, and I find out from his little step-sister, who is 13. I get the feeling like I'm not wanted in anyones life.. even my own kids because it seems that they are turning my kids against me. My ex has offered me a place to stay if I leave my husband.. I still love my ex with all my heart, he was my first true love and I don't know if that's why I love him, or just beause I love him because he treated me better. my husband and I are coming up on our 3 year wedding anniversary, and I want to know if it would be best for me to leave and go back to my ex, or to stay and TRY to work things out... *is so confused* If anyone could help me, that would be GREAT!!!!! THANX!!!!!

Hi Ariesvirgo....
You say that your husband and inlaws are turning your kids against you. Unless you are the world's most terrible mother (and I'm sure you're not) I simply don't believe this. If you love them, care for them, enjoy their company and are with them as much as possible - they WILL love you and need you. And this love cannot be altered by anyone.
So, I'm wondering why you say this. What are your children doing that make you feel unwanted? Are they perhaps copying the way their father treats you?
My other thought is for the kids to be 'turning against you' they must be spending a HUGE amount of time with your inlaws. Why you do leave them with your inlaws if you don't like the care they give your kids?