Serious but slow? Can it be?
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| Fri, 10-14-2005 - 6:19pm |
Hi everyone,
Thanks so much for your help with my Mixed Messages post earlier. This is about the same man. We have talked and settled on "friends thinking about a relationship and taking it very slowly." At first I thought this was his nice way to say get lost.
To clarify, we work not in the same buildings, but on the same campus. We occasionally have work meetings together, like once every 2 weeks. He has voiced that this will be a challenge, but hasn't said an impossibility.
We have been going out about once week, for a walk or for lunch, or to a concert. He is very discreet in public, but is very affectionate when we are alone. Has to squeeze my hand and smile sweetly wwhile he drives. Kisses me when we are out of view. He asks about what I want my future to be like. He's very interested in how my son is doing. He calls at about 930 at least everyother night to ask about my day and say good night.
His folks are on a long visit. They are elderly and staying with him for a few weeks. I didn't even consider meeting them a possibility and never asked to. I thought it would be kind of pushy to. For lunch yesterday he took me out, paid, wanted to order for me as a courtesy (old fashioned... It was actually very charming), and then he asked if I'd like to meet his parents. We went to his place and his dad was napping, but we visited with him mom for about a half hour. He introduced me as a friend from work, I guess that didn't suprise me he's very shy about dating and has told me so.
Anyhow. I am getting the impression that this guy really is serious about me but wants to be cautious,respectful and slow.
What do you think?!?!
Thanks so much for your thoughts.

He may be being cautios because you work so closely but my suggestion would be find another job and then see where things go. I am indifferent on workplace romance and think that should be kept behind closed doors. He may feel the same and wouldn't over time you feel shorted by the lack of attention or mention of the relationship later. I see people at my company and the smart ones are those who left (only one of them) and they seem to do much better then those who stayed. They get gossip about the relationship, managers will not promote either to a higher position, also everyone knows there good and bad. If you want to see if this is much more look for another job or relocate to another branch of the company and then see what dating is. Because most workplace romances are short lived and rarely survive unless you are together before the career or work so far apart you are rarely together.
Again this is my opinion and mine only. I have seen a lot of ups and downs behind this. And it is more down then up.
Thanks Cl-B.
Yes the job is his biggest concern, I think.
Anyone else have any ideas what he's thinking? Please reply. I'd sure like some more feedback,
Best, UberSilly