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Should He Pay?
| Wed, 06-08-2005 - 4:21pm |
So I have been dating this great guy for about three months and we get along very well and he has all the qualities I've been looking for. The problem is that he rarely if ever offers to pay even though he makes significantly more money than I do. I'm not in the relationship for the money and he seems to care deeply for me so I just don't get it. I've tried setting an example by saying, "Well why don't I get it this time and you can just take care of something next time" when he starts splitting the bill to the penny, but nothing has changed... Help please.

Either get used to this, or you may want to think about not dating him.
I know a man, at my work, who will split the bill down to the penny, after pulling out a calculator, and even calculates tax and tip, 15% of course at resturants. I hear, he does that with his dates too. EVERY date. All I can say is, it's not wonder he doesn't have a gf.
I think this is how the guy is. As some people are very meticulous about their money, and don't like to share.
So, accept it, or reject it. Personally, I could never date a man like that. It'd drive me up the wall. He's not going to change. You can try asking him flat out to pay for you, why not see what he says. That'll be your TRUE answer. Then decide if you can live with it. And don't kid yourself, I highly doubt he'll change.
~pineapple_girl
Do you seriously want to commit yourself to a mizer? That's what this guy appears to be to me. Down the road, he'll start telling you that you don't really NEED a new CD or whatever; then, it'll be (w/raised eyebrows) 'you spent______ on that?' or vice versa.
Studies have proven over and again that money is the #1 issue about which couples fight and, ultimately, divorce. Please don't let yourself get there. Since it's bugged you enough to post here, I'd say you'd definitely want to have a discussion w/your man about this issue before you proceed. When it comes to the basics, it's never too early to lay it all out on the table.
Please let us know how things turn out.
Hello mplsgrl2004!!
Steffy
CO-cl of Is It Meant to Be?