should i break up with him?
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should i break up with him?
| Sat, 05-13-2006 - 8:29pm |
I dated this guy for several years and we had an ugly break up about 2 years ago. We got back together after less than a year apart, and in the past year his poker habits have grown. He plays all the time and I hate it. He dropped out of college several years ago, and has not completed his degree. I met him when I was 18, and I have since finished my degree and have a great job that I love. I am considering going back to grad school. He could care less about his job, and just recently moved out of his house. I know this is a step, but his poker kills me and is holding him back from doing something better with his life. I am trying so hard to start life out right (I spend a lot of time at my job, and am working on my apartment and saving money and learning more about cooking, etc.) and he is refusing to grow up. I don't care if he never wants a degree, but he would rather play poker for a living!!!
I love him, and he loves me, but I don't know what to do. We are supposed to take a trip to California in a few weeks and it is going to cost a lot of money and things have been very awkward between us in the past few weeks because I am realizing more and more that we have different priorities and seem to be on 2 different pages.
I don't know if I should cancel on the trip, but more importantly I don't know if I should break up with him. It's been years, and I really do love him, but the poker thing is out of control AND he doesn't seem to want to find any direction whatsoever. He knows exactly how I feel about the whole thing.
We are still young (I'm 23, he's 25) but he has always been like this. Now I am starting to worry that he will never grow up and I will be the only responsible one in the relationship...
What would all of you do??? I love him but I don't want to waste more time on the wrong guy....
I love him, and he loves me, but I don't know what to do. We are supposed to take a trip to California in a few weeks and it is going to cost a lot of money and things have been very awkward between us in the past few weeks because I am realizing more and more that we have different priorities and seem to be on 2 different pages.
I don't know if I should cancel on the trip, but more importantly I don't know if I should break up with him. It's been years, and I really do love him, but the poker thing is out of control AND he doesn't seem to want to find any direction whatsoever. He knows exactly how I feel about the whole thing.
We are still young (I'm 23, he's 25) but he has always been like this. Now I am starting to worry that he will never grow up and I will be the only responsible one in the relationship...
What would all of you do??? I love him but I don't want to waste more time on the wrong guy....

I think you answered all of your own questions, and that you've known the answer for a while, but it's hard to rip off that bandage, isn't it?