Should I call?

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Registered: 03-21-2005
Should I call?
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Sun, 11-20-2005 - 12:47pm
I met this guy at a social function back in March. We both work and live in the same city. He's very handsome and, in my opinion, got the "whole package." I was instantly attracted to him but thought a guy like him could get any girls he wants. We exchanged business cards but never maintained any contact. However, he kept popping into my mind from time to time. Finally, I drummed up some courage and emailed him earlier this month and asked him to join me at a happy hour event. He came by himself and we had a great conversation. My coworkers told me that he's totally checking me out. Then I emailed and thanked him for coming to the happy hour. I also invited him to another happy hour event the following week, but he couldn't make it. However, he wrote in his email that we should hang out some other time and that he wants to stay in the city where we both work and live more often during the weekends. I was thrilled and thought he's interested. Within the next week, we had emails back and forth saying something like "ya, we should definitely hang out..." We even exchanged cell phone numbers. I even told him that I'm free this weekend and we could hang out and grab something to eat before I had to leave out of town for Thanksgiving weekend. However, he hasn't called. I believe that if he's truly interested in me, he would have made the first phone call. I really like him, but I really don't want to make the first phone call and do the "chasing." Besides, I had make the first move already by emailing him at the first place. I'm torn because I really really like him and thought he's the dream guy I've been searching for. What should I do?


Edited 11/20/2005 1:06 pm ET by la_ivillage
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Sun, 11-20-2005 - 1:03pm

Nothing. The ball is firmly in his court, and yes, if he's interested, he'll call.

Sheri

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Registered: 09-27-2004
Sun, 11-20-2005 - 6:52pm
I agree with Sheri. Don't call him, you made the first move and now it's his turn to call. Guys do like to do most of the chasing for the most part because it's in their nature. I also want to mention that you can't be certain if he's the man of your dreams because you don't know him well enough to determine that. He could be someone completely different once you guys get to know each other. So dont' give him the "man of your dreams" title until you have been with him for awhile and he confirms your beliefs. There are going to be other good men out there if he doesn't take the initiative to call you.
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Registered: 03-21-2005
Mon, 11-21-2005 - 6:30pm
Thanks for the responses. I guess I felt so strongly about him that I wanted him to call me. Men are weird, and many of them do not follow through. From his demeanor during the happy hour and his subsequent emails, it seems that he's definitely interested (and my friends agreed). But when it comes down to making the initial call, he DOESN'T DO A DAMN THING!! I know for a fact that he's single and unattached. Oh well, I guess he is not THAT interested after all. :-(


Edited 11/21/2005 6:34 pm ET by la_ivillage