Should I chalk this up to a player?

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Should I chalk this up to a player?
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Tue, 05-31-2005 - 12:21am

Wouldn't you know it... I was out NOT LOOKING for someone and I met someone I instantly clicked with and actually gave him my number!!! We were both busy and weren't able to go on our first date for two weeks. Leading up to the date we spent hours on the phone... something neither of us normally do and was looking forward to our date.

Our first date we ended up spending 24 hours together... I thought we had a great time, everything in common. Our next date was going to be on the following Sunday. He called and offered to come over later in the afternoon and bring a movie. Unfortunately, I had plans later on and was only available in the am and early afternoon. He called a few times after that and just stopped calling (my understanding was he was working 6 days a week - 12 hour days until early June). I did call and left a message about getting together and didn't hear from him.

I ended up seeing him out Saturday night, and he came over and said hi... he had gotten my message and has been working a lot and this was his one night out with the guys and went back to his crowd and later was dancing with other girls.

So now I guess he's "just not into me". It was obvious he majorily blew me off Saturday. I'm puzzled... how could I feel things went so well. Now I'm wondering, did I just get played? We weren't exclusive or anything so he really hasn't done anything wrong. I'm just dying to know what happened. He did seem impacted on our last phone call, when one of his friends told him his ex had a new boyfriend??? From the way he said he was ... I guess I expected him to say he wasn't interested?

I'm 34 and have everything going for me (outgoing personality, a great career, and even own a home) and completely take care of myself. I've date a few people in the past 4 years and I haven't had these strong feelings for any of them. I actually REALLY liked this guy and wanted to get to know him better.

In the dating world... does this mean I should completely write him off? Is it normal to go on a date and not hear from them for a few weeks? I only want to be with someone head over heels for me.

I know the best thing I can do is... not call him and continue on with my life. I just wonder if I'll may be hear from him in a few weeks?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 05-31-2005 - 9:56am
Maybe you will maybe you won't, who knows but go on with your life. SOmetimes you have to just roll with the dating game. Meet someone have a great time and take it just for that a great time and if something develops ok but you are not so caught off gaurd when they don't call or anything. SOrry this happened but just move on.
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