Should I Hold On?

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Registered: 08-03-2004
Should I Hold On?
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Tue, 01-10-2006 - 6:09pm
I really like this guy and he really likes me. The problem is people interupted with the phase where you find out if you really want the person or not and now he thinks something of me that is totally not me. It seems like his mind is made up but he always I mean ALWAYS changes his mind. This time, however, the question is when? When will he finally relize what a great person I am and how much I care for him? His friends say hold on because that's just how he is and he'll come around. My bestfriend says I should hold on also, but my other girlfriends say I should move on. I'm just really confused right now and heartbroken and frustrated. Please help me someone!
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Registered: 11-04-2005
In reply to: kcezair
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 6:38pm

I think people haven't responded because your query is vague. What is it that he heard about you? How well do you know each other? Are the two of you involved or is this more on the level of a crush?

Sometimes when people are still in the process of getting to know one another, they rely on third party information, so as to not get too invested in someone they hardly know. If it's that important to you, then why don't you go to him and correct whatever misinformation he has? And if he always changes his mind, why do you want to be with someone so wishy washy?

If you could say a little more about your situation, you might get more advice.

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Registered: 08-03-2004
In reply to: kcezair
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 6:46pm
Thanks! Okay how's this: We're both still in school and we're on that "I like you so I'm gonna hit you extra hard" level. I know it's elementary but that's just how it developed between us. We had (or have) this love/hate relationship but like I said before it's mainly because of rumors. Now he says I whine to much which is understandable because I knew it irritated him and whenever he made me made that's what I did. So I told him the truth and now he's stewing over it. I was thinking of inviting him over just me and him because usually when he comes we both have friends. I want to do this so we can reevaluate our opinions w/out our friends encouraging us to "act out and show off". Maybe this will change his mind for good.
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Registered: 03-07-2004
In reply to: kcezair
Tue, 01-10-2006 - 7:41pm
Why do you want a guy who has to be constantly convince to be with you?