SHOULD I JUST LET IT BE?

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Registered: 11-15-2005
SHOULD I JUST LET IT BE?
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Tue, 11-15-2005 - 2:00am
I've met this guy a year ago. We would occasionally bump into each other once in a while. Well after a year, we finally talked...but the problem is i have a b/f. Well...we were friends..and then one day i asked if he had feelings for me. His response was to lets pretend we never met, just let it be. Confused.....he still never did reply my answer. I just don't undertand why he would suddenly just not want to talk to me anymore.
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Registered: 12-16-1997
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 2:47pm

Forgive me if this sounds harsh, but why would you consider your current BF as "a problem"? Let's look at this in reverse. How would you feel if your BF had a similar discussion with another female in which he described YOU as "a problem"? At the very least, I imagine you'd find it very hurtful and grounds for breaking up.

Nevertheless, maybe the very reason why your friend stopped speaking to you is because you referred to your BF as "a problem". It may have been a major turn-off to him and caused him to think that if you'd speak that way of your BF, it may only be a matter of time before you'd refer to him too in the very same manner.

That's my two pesos....

Heymum

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Registered: 06-13-2003
Wed, 11-30-2005 - 9:56am
Hmm, he may also have figured since you are already committed to someone he doesn't want to venture down a path of heartache or complexity.
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Registered: 12-06-2004
Thu, 12-01-2005 - 1:34am
Because you have a boyfriend. And you were being (emotionally) unfaithful to your boyfriend by discussing feelings with another man. And if you're unfaithful to one boyfriend, chances are high you'd be unfaithful to another.