Should I just tell my ex how I feel??
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|Thu, 05-07-2009 - 11:53am|
Ok I've been lurking here for a while (few posts here and there) and I figure this is a good place to share my story because I am pretty much going nuts thinking about it. I have gotten input/advice from close friends and they all tell me I need to wait for the right timing and then go for it. Anyway, here is my story:
My ex and I started dating when I was 14, he was 15. We actually knew each other in preschool but went to different schools up until High School. So we were together for years and years. His family was my family, he worked with my dad, he was my whole world. At one point around 21 I wanted some time apart, not to be with someone else per se, b/c I did love him, but I felt like we needed to grow indepedently, because if we got married soon we'd probably wind up resenting each other. He was always kind of flirty(although loyal to a fault, good guy) so I figured he could use time to sow his wild oats and I needed time to learn about myself and grow up and find out who I was without him, but I always saw him in my future, I always pictured us married someday.
Anyway, of course the risk I took was him meeting someone else, and he met this girl who was a few years younger (and needy and clingy and obnoxious) and I think she started to fill a void that he felt was missing with us. He needed that