Should I stay or should I go?
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|Fri, 04-02-2010 - 11:55pm|
I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. We're both in our mid 20's. We used to bicker a LOT, but it has settled down a lot over the past 6 months. He's insecure, but controlling? You tell me. I call him every break I get a work, if I don't he wonders why and it seems like he gets a little upset but he denies that. He won't let me go to bars with my girlfriends alone (the 2 or 3 times a year I go to a bar)... things like that. What should I do about his insecurities? I want to get him over it.
The reason I don't just dump him is because he has a history behind him. A hard few years with a very sick dad and a mother in the middle of her mid life crises getting a divorce, brothers and sisters in rehab, and lastly a manipulative and untrustworthy girlfriend.
He's got an ambitious, charismatic, smart personality, but I feel like this huge cloud is hanging over him. He lives with his mother right now and I think that could be making the cloud linger? We are moving out together in a few days and I'm hoping he gets better... he's been getting better, it's just little things now. But if he doesn't change we won' work...
What should I do about his insecurities? Is it stupid of me to think I can help him?