Should I tell him

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Registered: 07-02-2005
Should I tell him
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Sat, 07-02-2005 - 12:10pm
In march my boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me. I'm over the break up and I like a guy I work with. I work for my sister and brother-in-laws business. It is a service company and one of the service guys that is about my age I like, a lot. We talk all day long on the phone and when we are both in the office we flirt like crazy. Usually it is only us in the office. We talk about everything including sex. The catch is everytime we try to do something outside of work it always falls through. We both intend on going but then something will always come up. We sometimes talk outside of work on the phone but not a lot. We have great chemistry and I think that we could have a good relationship. Everytime I tell myself that I don't like him, he does or says something that shows me he is interested. I need to tell him I like him but not know how and I don't want to mess up the friendship. What should I do?? Should I wait for him to make a move? Or move on? I really do like this guy, probably more then I should!
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Registered: 08-10-2003
Sat, 07-02-2005 - 1:50pm
Romance in the work place doesn't work 100% of the times. Be sure of what you're doing. Why are the plans you both have outside the office fall through? Is it he who cancels or are you? Please clarify some more.
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Registered: 07-02-2005
Sat, 07-02-2005 - 2:35pm
We both cancel, I did not show up to his cookout and when I asked him to go to the lake he said he would, but then on Sunday I try to call him once and I could not reach him. Besides that we both talk about going out and having drinks or something like that but we never actually make the plans.
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Registered: 04-18-2004
Mon, 07-04-2005 - 12:58am
If I were you, I would let him make a move. That way you'll know if he's really interested or if he's just being polite to you.
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Registered: 03-27-2005
Mon, 07-04-2005 - 2:10am
I think wait it out and just see what happens. Actually hang out outside of work first before you say or do anything else. I have been in a few relationships with co-workers some worked for a while and some didn't. You need to make sure that you are able to actually have an outside relationship as well as being able to stay professional about it at work. You may find out that all it is is flirting and you don't necessarily like him as much as you think. Trust me, I have been there too.
Good Luck though. I hope it works out for you. But I would definitely let him make the move. Hang out and be friends first outside of work and see how that goes first.