Should I wait or give up???

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Registered: 06-18-2004
Should I wait or give up???
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Mon, 09-12-2005 - 4:08pm
I have been talking to this guy for a month and a half now. We started out talking on the phone and I visited him once. Then we started emailing. I am going through a divorce and it will be final Sept. 15th. He responded to a few of my emails, and we both agreed it would be better to wait until the divorce was final to get "involved". I know he has checked his email a few times this week and I haven't heard a word from him. That is the problem. He was the one that wanted to just email until everything was final and now he reads them but doesn't respond? I have asked him after this week if and when was I going to get to talk or see him. I haven't heard anything back yet on that eamil. I don't know what to do. Should I wait and give him sometime or just tell him that he has to want this more for it to work out??
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Registered: 12-16-1997
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 6:13pm

Give up.

I don't know how long you've been married, but I think you would be wise to give yourself time to think about the demise of your marriage and whatever lessons you're to learn from THAT before you jump head first into another relationship with him or anyone else.

I've heard it said that for every three years of marriage, one needs one full year to recover emotionally and be ready for the rigors of a new relationship.

Good luck,
Heymum

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 09-12-2005 - 7:31pm

Give up. His silence speaks for itself.

Sheri

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Wed, 09-21-2005 - 8:52am
He has been eamiling me and we have spent this last weekend together. He is very sweet. Honest and repectful. We have also been talking on the phone. He is very willing to get "involved" since things are final. Just wanted to let everyone know that I am glad I waited, and things are going good.
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Registered: 06-30-2003
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 9:51am
That's great and I'm happy for you. You are probably going through a lot emotionally and having someone there is always helpful. Just keep in mind that you should probably take it slow. Best of luck :D
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Registered: 06-21-2005
Wed, 09-21-2005 - 12:12pm
I agree!
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Mon, 10-17-2005 - 5:25pm
We have been talking a lot about us and where things are going. Spending more and more time together. :) Had dinner with his little girl, which is great and we get along wonderfully, his mother is really nice. He has asked me to go to Montana with him, and we have talked about how things could be perfect or things could go all wrong. I haven't gave him my decision yet, but am leaning to YES. I'll let you know soon. Thanks for all the support and keep me in your prayers.