Should White Be Red??
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Should White Be Red??
| Tue, 07-04-2006 - 12:21pm |
Should white lies be a red flag? I've been dating my present beau for the last couple months. I've caught him in a few "white lies." He tells me he's called when he hasn't (my cell phone records all missed calls), he says he's going to pick me up at 12 and when he doesn't come til 1 he tells me that's what time he said he was going to be there, he says he has to work 8 to 2 and the next day he's working 10 to 4. Now, I realize these lies are very small in the entire spectrum of lying. However, how do I know these small lies won't lead to bigger ones? Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks in advance! ~Mindi

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Ok...to me, that's not a lie, that's not doing what you say you're going to do (which is not quite the same as lying, although it's not a good thing either ;-)).
But for me, it would be a dealbreaker if it happened more than once or twice. I am very responsible and reliable and I want someone who is the same way, someone I can count on.
I wouldn't talk to him about anything like this over the phone, and I definitely wouldn't talk to him about it after he's been out drinking.
The feeling I get from your posts on this board and what you posted on the other board is that he just doesn't have a lot of respect and consideration for you.
Sheri
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