shy guy?

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Registered: 09-07-2005
shy guy?
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Wed, 09-07-2005 - 9:10pm
Dave and I have been friends for a few years. Our friend Mike has always tried to get us together. We are total opposites but have always clicked. Shawn has tatoos all over his body (nothing wrong with that, just different) but he is a real sweet guy. Recently my friends and his friends have commented to us on separate occassions they think we would be great together. My one friend mentioned how she sees us connect. She says he is not like that with any of the other girls we hang out with.
We did hook up one time last year but neither of us told anyone or even mentioned it to each other afterwards. I think neither of us knew what the other was thinking!
Dave's friend told me he has no self-confidence when it comes to girls. He doesn't know what girl would want to be with a guy who is all tattoed.
When his friends say something about me he just kind of smiles and laughs it off. If he was interested, wouldn't he say something to them?
He'll do sweet things like offer to get my drink or ask me if I'd like his jacket because I'm cold.
I really don't know if he is interested or just being a friend. His friend told if I'm interested I should make the first move because Dave has "no game."
I have a fear of rejection, especially a fear of rejection from a friend.
How can I find out if he is truly interested? I guess I could find out from one of his friends but that seems so junior highish.
I think I am starting to like him and would like to see where it may go....what do I do?
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Registered: 10-06-2004
In reply to: 21675
Wed, 09-07-2005 - 10:02pm
Hello 21675! Personally, if I were you - I would take each day as it comes w/your new friendship w/Mike. Just take it slow and enjoy the friendshp. Like you both did before, go out w/each other without telling the mutual friends. My advice for what it's worth is to talk and talk and then some more. You say that you two have been friends for years, certainly your families have crossed (at least I hope). Again, if I were you I would wait and if the vibes were right between us, I would talk to the family members who I thought could be trusted not to spread this info. All I'm trying to say is life is very different when it comes to family and friends. Hopes this makes sense to you. Just my two! Take care and God Bless.