slip of the tounge

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Registered: 05-18-2004
slip of the tounge
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Mon, 10-10-2005 - 2:48pm

OK so me and the guy I have been dating for about a month now were at my house laying in the floor watching a movie when I said something off the wall about the movie, he jokingly called me a crack head and I said I am not a crack head, he looked me dead in my eyes and said but I love you and kissed me, then realized what he said and we were both like woh, He was like did I just say that and I was like yeah ya did, and he was like I did not mean for that to just pop out and I said I kinda figured that and he said what and I said that you didn't mean to say it. The he looks and me and says it's not that I didn't mean it but I did not mean for it to just pop out like that, and then it was quick change of subject. So is this a typical slip of the tounge or is it ok to assum he could love me?

As I stated in my pervious post the guys I have been dating now for only 5 weeks has said I love you again, he came by on Saturday to get the b-day gift I had gotten him and when he went to leave we were standing in my livingroom hugging ang he said it just all casusal and general "I love you" I was still in shock from the 1st time so this time it really freaked me out, So what do you all think? Is it posibly to say I love you twice to someone and not mean it.

HELP PLEASE

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 3:27pm
It is very possible to be falling in love with someone in those early stages. I for one have and have had someone fall in love with me at the same time. Obviously, it is not the same kind of intense love you will grow to have but it is preliminary love and very real. I don't think that people say they love someone by mistake twice. If he said he loved you it was because he meant it. If I were you I would embrace it! Good luck!
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Registered: 09-01-2005
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 4:07pm
Sounds like you need to talk to him about the pace of the relationship. Otherwise, you wouldn't be freaked out by this.
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Registered: 07-21-2003
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 5:44pm

Why do you think he doesn't mean it? It is certainly possible to be in love after a month - it recently happened to me. How do you feel about him?

Here's the thing - many of us have had terrible relationship experiences and have gotten into relationships with wrong people. As a result, we have a hard time believing that good people and good relationships actually can happen. I was one of the biggest skeptics out there for a long time, but recently I started seeing this guy and it was like I was hit by a truck. What struck me most was that it was just so easy and natural. We don't have to try to get along, we just do.

So, it can happen - and does. You may have found it, and if so, congratulations and you deserve it!

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Registered: 01-06-2004
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 8:25am

Honestly, if I were you I'd be more inclined to believe he means it BECAUSE he isn't making a big deal out of it. The fact he said it a second time and said it casually is actually a good sign that he has become comfortable with the idea that he loves you.

Now the question is, do you love him?

If you do, tell him ASAP. There's no waiting worse then waiting for a person you love to say "I love you, too."

Oh and I totally agree witht the other posters, it's completely possible to fall in love with soemone in a month. It may not be a love that will last a lifetime, but that doesn't mean it isn't love and that it doesn't deserve to be expressed. After all, a love that lasts a lifetime has to start someplace. :)

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 10-13-2005 - 10:24am
I agree again. Like I said it is very possible to fall in love that fast. Don't be afraid rather embrace it! Also, if you love him feel free to tell him that. There is no time constraint on expressing love for another. Sometimes it just all falls into place like it seems to be doing for you!