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|Thu, 07-09-2009 - 2:57am|
So I've been dating this guy for 2 months. Almost all the time he was the one that's been chasing after me. I didn't like him at first and even ignored him and turned down his invitations to parties and movies. But then I started to have some feelings for him. Things were going normally: we both knew we have feelings for the other and we've been teasing and chasing and having a lot of fun until one day he texted me and asked whether i was looking for a serious or just a for fun relationship. I wasn't really into anything with commitment at the time so I told him it was just gonna be summer fun. And he replied he was thinking the same thing. But then later when we met he told me it was actually his friend who'd been texting with me earlier (since he let him borrow his phone for a while). I got so confused and my guts told me he'd lied about that. But i had no proof so i just let it go.
After we'd been dating for a month or so, my feelings for this guy got a lot stronger so I decided I might want to go for something more than just a summer fun. I talked to him about that asking what he thought. He then said he like me but not enough to be in a serious relationship with me and that he'd not want to be set on anyone. Upon hearing this, I knew it'd ever work out between us so I told him I decided to cut all the ties with him and move on with someone else.
But then the next day we pumped into each other at a club. I was with a very close guy friend of mine - which was kinda misleading coz he mistakenly thought he was my new love interest. I ignored him all the time and just danced with my friend. Then just when I was about to leave, he sort of held my hands and tried to get me out to talk to me in private. I didn't really get what he wanted at the time so I just let go of him and went back home with my friend. That night this guy got really mad. He texted me at 3 am asking if he could talk to me. And then he was blah blah about who the guy friend was and such. I told him it was a close friend to calm him down and then reminded him he'd told me he doesn't want a relationship so no need for him to redo the phrase all the time. He then said he rethinking it. But he'd respect if I wanted to stick to the decision. I again asked him what he wanted. And he said " I don't know" still (Failure!) so I told him i needed to go to bed and he probably should do so too. I texted him another message later that night telling him I wanted to stick to the decision and we needed to avoid any further contacts in the future.
I have to meet this guy on a weekly basis coz we co-teach a prep course together. Ever since that day, this guy texted me less (I suppose) but still everyday (I never text him first) just to ask some silly work-related questions. Last class he still asked me out but I said no - of course. Then when he learnt that I had got a date earlier, he kept asking questions about where we went, what we did, who the guy was and such. My guts told me deep inside he wanted to be with me, still cared about me but not ready yet to give up his single life. I was really upset about this.
I told him I'd not go to his birthday party and he was upset about it. Anyway I don't really know what I should do. I still have feelings for him but not sure what he's after.
Additional details: we haven't had any physical contact and he has a reputation of being a player.
Please give me some insightful advice!