So what was it?

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Registered: 01-10-2005
So what was it?
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Tue, 04-19-2005 - 2:45pm

Hello all!

So here is my situation.

This weekend I met the most fantastic man. We spent the entire night laughing and flirting. When we got back to our friends house, we wound up sleeping together. I have to say it was not the best... we had both been drinking. (you know how that goes, lol!) The next morning I expected to get the "yeah, that was fun, lets do it again sometime" speech, but much to my surprise he grabbed me before I even had a chance to get out of bed and wanted to snuggle. This behavior from a man is something I have not seen in a very long time! We spent the entire day, flirting, napping, talking, and most importantly LAUGHING! To me it was the perfect day. The house we were staying at was his friends, and his friends were there all day also, and witnessed him being affectionate! (again, another behavior I am not familure with) It was starting to get late, and we decided to check onto a hotel for some privacy. (as you may have gathered we are both visiting form out of town, however we live only an hour apart) He was incredible to me. The sex was fantastic, and after he wanted to talk! I want to believe this guy is wonderful, but as you may have gathered I have had AWFUL experiences with men. As he was leaving the next morning he was acting weird. He didn't have much to say, he came around to my side of the bed, gave me a kiss and said "Maybe I will call you sometime." This I assumed was in a joking manor at the time, but of course now I think he was serious. It has only been 2 days, and he has not called. I really want to think I am freaking out and overthinking everything, because I felt a connection with him. Any ideas, suggestions, comments??

Thank you,
BETTY

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Registered: 01-10-2005
Wed, 04-20-2005 - 12:34pm

Again I want to thank you all for your opinions.

I got an email from my very best girl friend who is dating the owner of the home I stayed at this weekend. Through the grape vine, it has been said that my "man" was taken by me, and may have even mentioned to his pals "he hasn't felt this was in a long time, and would love to see me soon" I did receive a call from him last night and we chatted for, oh close to an hour. I am starting to think that this time, being a slut and drunk in public may have just paid off, but I am NOT going to get my hopes up. lol. Again, thanks for all your posts and please feel free to keep them coming.

Love,
BETTY

P.S. I can't stop smiling! :)

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Registered: 02-25-2005
Wed, 04-20-2005 - 12:54pm
My point wasn't that he thought she was easy. My point is that if you don't want to be hurt, don't put yourself out there so soon. You can't expect a strange man to look out more for your feelings than you yourself. She shared the most intimate part of herself with this guy, and now she has no power in the situation. She is at his mercy to contact her. I, personally, think it is a foolish and preventable situation. If he really liked her he would call without her having had to give so much of herself to him first.
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Registered: 02-23-2005
Wed, 04-20-2005 - 1:18pm
Yes I agree with you there, and that if she went into it looking for a *relationship* that it was a bad way to do it. I was just seeing 5 or 6 posts that were going in a direction that was calling her a slut persay,(wasn't attacking your post at all) Of course I hope she understands that bringing out sex too soon will increase her chances of being used, if she begins to date a new potential. I thought her weekend hookup wasn't planned and just happened and she after the fact wants to see more of him, which might not be realistic.
I'm so glad he called, maybe you guys can have a chance to get to know each other now... good luck!!!!

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