Some input please

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Registered: 06-12-2005
Some input please
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Tue, 06-28-2005 - 10:54am

Hi guys how are you all?
Well, just so we are all on the same page, i wrote about how the guy i am dating wont ask me to be his girl.... Because of work situations. But anyways, ive decided i was going to give him to september, because at that point we would had been together 5 months already..... So right now what i am doing is working on what we do have and hoping that will help him pop the question and make us official...

So, i am planning to get him a gift for the office... what do you guys think i should get him?... besides a frame.

Any input i will i appreciate it!
Thanks ~

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Registered: 08-09-2004
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 5:52pm

I am sorry, but no, you shouldn't be buying him gifts. This won't help him to "pop the question", if anything it might put him off.

Some words of wisdom: Don't love those who don't love you back.

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Registered: 08-10-2003
Tue, 06-28-2005 - 10:39pm
Hon, gifts won't make you "his girl". He's apparently dating you casually and no amount of gifts or else will make his mind change until He HIMSELF does it. Don't make a fool out of yourself by giving this man gifts in hopes of changing his mind.
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Registered: 01-06-2004
Wed, 06-29-2005 - 7:45am

I've kind of avoided weighing in on this, but I have to say, you really should listen to leafy greens and ccruise. Your chasing this guy. A guy who cares about you just doesn't make you work this hard to get him.

He doesn't love you. He's not going to love you. He's just not that in to you. Trying to convince him to be into you isn't going to work. Even if you manage to convice him it's never goign to be real. Do you really want to be with someone you had to convince to love you instead of someone who just does?

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Registered: 06-13-2003
Thu, 06-30-2005 - 4:03pm
My only thoughts are that 5 months is not a very long time to expect a proposal? I have 2 friends, one got engaged after 11 years and the other 8 years!!! maybe that is the other extreme, but 5 months is really soon for anyone if you ask me.