Strange feeling

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Registered: 09-26-2001
Strange feeling
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Thu, 12-29-2005 - 12:22pm

It would'be been two years i February since I met a good friend who passed away 4 months ago. She was one of the nicest people you would ever meet. She was married with two sons and had a wonderful relationship with her husband. After her passing, I stayed good friends with her husband. Im a little worried because all of the sudden I find my self thinking about him in the middle of the night
and throu out the day. And (I hope im wrong), but he has been calling me a couple of times a day sometimes to say nothing. Do I feel sorry for him for loosing his wife or is there something else?

Let me just say that if in fact there was something developing"Romantic" I would never go for it.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 12-29-2005 - 12:36pm
maybe he just finds comfort in you b/c you too were close to his wife. Also he may feel like you are relating to his loss. Things like this tend to happen and then evolve into a relationship. I personally think it is too soon but the call is on you. Perhaps you should express to him that you find it comforting that you both are feeling a smiliar loss and that's all. I wouldn't even do that though. It's simply just a hard time for the both of you. I'm sorry for your loss.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 12-29-2005 - 12:38pm

I am sorry for your loss.


You could be falling for him. This is normal and happens sometimes. You were there in a time of sadness and have been a good friend to him. Do not feel bad if you are developing feelings. It would be a good thing for me to know that someone I trusted and was bestfriends with grew to know my husband after I passed and they ended up together. I will then know that who has been brought into my children's life is someone who will love and care for them as their own and my husband is no longer lonely and they both have each other while I am not there.


But, if you suspect him being in it for more and wanting nothing of it then just slowly pull yourself out of the situation. Not always answering when he calls. Allow him to leave message and return only when it deems necessary.


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Registered: 09-26-2001
Thu, 12-29-2005 - 2:08pm

I think you make alot of sence. Thanks!!!