Strange male behavior...

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Registered: 03-28-2006
Strange male behavior...
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Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:12am
I started dating a new guy about a month ago and things moved very quickly. We ended up having sex on the first date, but have worked to develop a relationship based around a friendship since. This past weekend, he told me that he has rushed into relationships in the past because too much was based around sex. He says that he really likes me, feels more connected to me than any girl he has dated in quite some time, and can't remember laughing as much with anyone else. He told me that he wants to "get back to having a healthy emotional relationship". So he said he thought it would be a good idea if we don't have sex for awhile so we can develop our emotional relationship more than the physical one. I'm sort of confused because this just seems so out of the norm. I don't know whether to take it at face value, or think this is a pulling away. Any advice would help!
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Registered: 02-04-2005
Tue, 03-28-2006 - 1:12pm
Sounds to me like a good thing. He wants to try things differently than he has in the past and wants to develop a relationship that is not based just on sex Good Luck
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Registered: 10-13-2004
Wed, 03-29-2006 - 10:07pm

If this happened to me, I'd be worried on a couple of levels.

1. I'd be thinking that he's far too complicated. Mainly because I don't understand why he can't develop an emotional relationship while still having sex with you.

2. I'd also be questioning the quality of the sex/chemistry. In my experience, when all is going well in a relationship - we don't want to keep our hands off each other. If a guy can happily keep his hands off me, then I would figure that the sex must be very forgettable for him. Would you want to stop having sex with someone who you strongly desired?

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Registered: 04-03-2006
Thu, 04-13-2006 - 5:32pm
It sounds like he likes you! He wants things to be different this time around and he actually wants to get to know you! I think sometimes we all can be too quick to jump the gun with paranoid suspicions of an alterior motive. (And this is coming from me-Ms. Jaded)
Give him a try! It's nice to be courted!
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Registered: 04-18-2006
Tue, 04-25-2006 - 7:57pm
well i think you should stay with this guy! once in a blue moon does this happen when a guy wants to be with you and without sex! so its pretty obvious that he wants to get to know you.he probably sees something in you that different from other girls and wants to take his time getting to know you.i say go along with it.cause really sex is great but its not everything and it will mean more to the both of you if you got to know eachother.good luck sweety!
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Registered: 12-26-2006
Tue, 12-26-2006 - 6:57pm
I think he is seeing someone.
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Registered: 12-28-2006
Thu, 12-28-2006 - 8:18pm
Naaa I don't think so. I agree with the others, he sees something special in you and wants to make sure it is not just the sex that is keeping him there. Now a days relationships revolve around sex. Why? What happened to getting to know each other and enjoying someones company without it ending up in the bedroom. I would say go for it and get to know him. Sex can wait.
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Registered: 12-13-2006
Tue, 01-16-2007 - 11:35am
sex can definitely wait, plus you rush to have sex, it may just complicate everything.