Strange male behavior...
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Strange male behavior...
| Tue, 03-28-2006 - 11:12am |
I started dating a new guy about a month ago and things moved very quickly. We ended up having sex on the first date, but have worked to develop a relationship based around a friendship since. This past weekend, he told me that he has rushed into relationships in the past because too much was based around sex. He says that he really likes me, feels more connected to me than any girl he has dated in quite some time, and can't remember laughing as much with anyone else. He told me that he wants to "get back to having a healthy emotional relationship". So he said he thought it would be a good idea if we don't have sex for awhile so we can develop our emotional relationship more than the physical one. I'm sort of confused because this just seems so out of the norm. I don't know whether to take it at face value, or think this is a pulling away. Any advice would help!

If this happened to me, I'd be worried on a couple of levels.
1. I'd be thinking that he's far too complicated. Mainly because I don't understand why he can't develop an emotional relationship while still having sex with you.
2. I'd also be questioning the quality of the sex/chemistry. In my experience, when all is going well in a relationship - we don't want to keep our hands off each other. If a guy can happily keep his hands off me, then I would figure that the sex must be very forgettable for him. Would you want to stop having sex with someone who you strongly desired?
Give him a try! It's nice to be courted!