strong-willed woman -y r men intimidated

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Registered: 12-04-2005
strong-willed woman -y r men intimidated
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Sun, 12-04-2005 - 10:59pm
I just wanted to know if anyone else has gone thr.ough this
i am a strong willed woman, average looking and work in a male dominated fielD
i,m not your damsel in distress female and am outspoken but not threatening by any means but it seems most men would prefer the damsel in distress woman, i get asked out but they usually end up prefering me to be more of the DID TYPE,ONE GUY ACTUALLY SAYS HES AFRAID OF ME YET WE VE TALKED ON THE PHONE FOR HOURS,HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH THIS DILEMMA iAM A GOOD LISTENER I,M TOLD AND I LIKE WHO IAM AND AM VERY GROUNDED AND KNOW MY GOALS AND WHAT I WANT OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP,IS THAT WRONG,IF I SETTLE FOR LESS THAN WHAT I DESERVE ,THEN I DESERVE WHAT I SETTLE FOR AND IVE ALREADY SETTLED MORE TIMES THAN I CARE TO AND I GOT EXACTLY WHAT I SETTLED FOR ANY HELP OR ADVICE |||||
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Registered: 12-04-2005
Mon, 12-05-2005 - 5:28am
guys have problems with strong women because they think the woman is threatening his "manhood." its not a problem you being yourself. thats the right way to go about things. if a guy cant accept you for the strong person you are then keep moving on until you find someone who will. there are plenty of fish in the sea. keep throwing your line out and eventually you'll find a fish big enough to bring home!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 12-05-2005 - 8:17am

Hi miracles2u!

First...Pianoguy LOVES your ivillage user name. .

I honestly think there are 2 types of men.....the ones who were brought up in a household where women just did the chores, were "seen and not heard"----and as you put it, were considered "damsels in distress!"

However, there's another type of male who is able to respect (or at least listen to) the viewpoints of a woman without making a lot of commotion. Now whether they can honestly accept the opinion, attitude or personality of that 'outspoken lady' is another issue entirely!

Maybe it's because "an opinionated woman" often has to push her point of view a little harder than a man would...in order to be heard?

While there's nothing wrong with standing up for what you believe in....a lot of men aren't in the mood to 'argue your point with you!' So we'll usually dismiss it and change the subject.

And this usually makes most women even madder at US than they were before?

Pianoguy

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 12-05-2005 - 11:04am
I had this problem for a while after my divorce. I was very blunt and did not waste my time when it came to dating. I said up front what I wanted and didn't and what I expected in a relationship and plainly let the guy know if that is not him then it was fine we both can move on because I was not about to waste his time nor mine. Ok, that ran some away kept some for a short time. Never did I get all that I want but I did not allow that to hurt me or stop me. I kept on in my work and daily life and still speak up. But, I will say when it came time for me to meet my current guy I had no chance to be so blunt. He told me how he was up front and he was what I was looking for. He not only told me but shows it and continues. So do not worry about being a strong woman who knows what she wants. Keep after it because there are men who love that and will support it all the same.

Marie

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