BUT, it never seems to work out.
We both like each other.
Remember something, when a man likes you and wants to be with you, he will go out of his way to make plans, see you and will be vocal about it. There will be a lot less work on your part to making things work.
As for this situation, you need to stop trying to do anything with this guy, like being his friend, like seeing him at his house, etc. If he's self-absorbed, working on himself and you are the one chasing after him, that's way too many red flags. Saying he wants to be with you and actually making the effort are 2 different things.
Have some respect for yourself and take the time to be with someone that shows clear interest in you and IS ready to settle down.
I completely agree with you.
I know what you mean. I have been dealing with a guy for the past year with whom I have an amazing connection and great sex. But he doesn't want a relationship, so I moved on to someone who does. But the first guy won't let go, and just last night sent me a text saying that he thinks about me every day.
Well, good for him, I guess. I mean, what was the point of that? He knows I want a real relationship with someone, not FWB. Does he think that by saying he thinks about me every day means I will go running back to his bed? When there IS someone out there who seems interested in having a real grown-up relationship with me?
Yes, you can have an amazing connection with someone and have it lead to nothing. Soooo frustrating, but in the end you have to do what's best for you. And you are right, you have to do what is best for you. Don't let people play with you.