Such a great connection

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2009
Such a great connection
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Fri, 10-16-2009 - 6:13pm

BUT, it never seems to work out.


We both like each other.

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-25-2008
Sat, 10-17-2009 - 11:45am
sorry but i cant make out where the ' connection' is coming from? have you dated for a significant period of time to find any compatibility ?
i am sorry but i cant understand where and how you guys fir in together?
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-18-2006
Mon, 10-19-2009 - 9:07am

Remember something, when a man likes you and wants to be with you, he will go out of his way to make plans, see you and will be vocal about it. There will be a lot less work on your part to making things work.

As for this situation, you need to stop trying to do anything with this guy, like being his friend, like seeing him at his house, etc. If he's self-absorbed, working on himself and you are the one chasing after him, that's way too many red flags. Saying he wants to be with you and actually making the effort are 2 different things.

Have some respect for yourself and take the time to be with someone that shows clear interest in you and IS ready to settle down.

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2009
Mon, 10-19-2009 - 12:39pm

I completely agree with you.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2008
Tue, 10-20-2009 - 8:03am

I know what you mean. I have been dealing with a guy for the past year with whom I have an amazing connection and great sex. But he doesn't want a relationship, so I moved on to someone who does. But the first guy won't let go, and just last night sent me a text saying that he thinks about me every day.

Well, good for him, I guess. I mean, what was the point of that? He knows I want a real relationship with someone, not FWB. Does he think that by saying he thinks about me every day means I will go running back to his bed? When there IS someone out there who seems interested in having a real grown-up relationship with me?

Yes, you can have an amazing connection with someone and have it lead to nothing. Soooo frustrating, but in the end you have to do what's best for you. And you are right, you have to do what is best for you. Don't let people play with you.