Unexpected twist of fate

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Unexpected twist of fate
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Wed, 05-18-2011 - 5:16pm

I have been dating this guy G for over a month now. He's great. He's sweet, he loves kids, he's been like an open book in showing his life to me. I have met his family including his mother. We've been getting to know each other and for the first time in a long time I have met a man who wants more than just sex. He wants what I do, a relationship. I just graduated school. I'm 28 with 2 kids and he's 32 no kids. Since I graduated with a degree in Advertising and have a little experience in PR, G told me he just got offered this gig to do PR for a new club and asked me to join him. I said yes, but at the meeting sunday night with the rest of the crew I felt uneasy. You see G isn't perfect but his only flaw I see as of now is that he breaks his neck looking at women. He and I haven't even had sex yet so I'm not so worried he'll cheat, but I figure if I can't hold his attention now and we are just starting out, then what will happen later... maybe then he could. I feel disrespected when he does it. I know men look, I even look at men or can appreciate beauty, the difference is I don't break my neck or stare so hard that I forget where and with who I am for minutes at a time. Well this gig would make us sit at casting calls for beautiful women so um...yea uneasy much??

Besides all this, he just met my kids. Something I hadn't let anyone do in 3 years!! I thought everything was going great and I let him in my life....something changed yesterday.

I had to go to work a concert yesterday. I was with a group of people from school. I hit it off from the start with a guy A. Working ended up being just sitting around doing nothing and then enjoying a free concert. We ended up spending all day together. It was surreal how the connection felt. Something I have never felt. G was at this concert. He had bought tickets and went with his family. We were supposed to meet after the concert, but he changed the plans saying he had to drop off his brother. I told him I was away from my seat and getting a drink, he never met me. He could have even sat with me, and he didn't. I wanted to believe maybe he just wanted to be with his family, but I mean 5 minutes shouldn't be a big deal. He left the night wide open for A and I to get to know each other. We ended up leaving early and heading out to a bar. G didn't call me until I didn't answer his text about what section I was in. I didn't reply because at this point I'm disappointed he didn't answer when I asked him the same ? earlier that day, and I'm feeling that maybe he's just not that into me. He calls to dedicate

 

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Thu, 05-19-2011 - 12:47am

OMG

dragowoman

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Fri, 05-20-2011 - 4:12pm

I think it depends what you want right now.

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Registered: 04-21-2008
Tue, 05-24-2011 - 9:24am

I tend to disagree with the others -- I think that 22 and 28 are very different stages in a person's life, especially when one has kids and the other doesn't.

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Registered: 01-25-2010
Tue, 05-24-2011 - 4:36pm

T there are too many varibles. I have known women at 40 who had no clue.

dragowoman

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Registered: 01-03-2011
Sun, 05-29-2011 - 10:14pm
If your gut is telling you that A22 is too young for you at this point in your life, then that's what you should probably go with that feeling. And if you're feeling so uneasy about G32, I say leave him. There is someone out there for you that's just right. It seems like you know what you want out of life and a man - that's why you're questioning the situation so much.

Also, maybe you met A22 as a life lesson - he popped into your life to show you that there are men that can make you happy (happier than G32) and that aren't afraid to show and tell you how happy you make them.

Just something to think about! Good luck! :)
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Registered: 01-25-2010
Sun, 05-29-2011 - 11:05pm

No, no one can make you happy.

dragowoman